Alicia Keys the Slore

I was just over at snitch's and over the weekend Mashonda, Swizz Beats still current wife, tweeted a letter to Alicia Keys about Alicia needs to be sensitive and respect her position as wife until they are formally divorced. Well it seems that Alicia was tweeting about feeling all googly and talking about being in-love.

"I don't pretend 2 no wht luv is 4 every1, I can tell u wht it is for me;
8:24 PM Sep 25th from web love is knowin all abt some1, & still wantin 2 b wit thm more thn any other persn. love is trustin the enuf 2 tell thm everythin abt urself,
8:23 PM Sep 25th from web evn the things u might b ashamed of,love is feelin comfort&safe wit some1,but still gettin weak knees whn they walk n2 a room & smile at u.”
8:22 PM Sep 25th from web

Mashonda felt disrespected - so she counter twittered with this 10 page letter:

After having a great evening with my son and enjoying some fun twit chat, I decided to sign off and get some work done. However, a few hours later I was advised that I should check @aliciakeys twit page. I've never reached out to her on twitter before. I feel our issues are a lot more serious than a website conversation. Not to mention that I've reached out to her many times in the beginning of this whole thing, as any wife would do. Unfortunately, I never succeeded in getting a response. The 1st time I meet AK, my husband introduced us to each other at an event. ( I have no choice but to call him my husband, until he is not anymore) In the messages that I sent to her (AK), I made it very clear that on the contrary of what she might be hearing, I am still married to my husband, living with him and just had a child. Its been two years and I still have not received a response. What I do receive, is constant displays of selfishness and disconcern to me and my son.

I was a fan of AK's last album, we were both signed to J Records and I always checked up on her projects. I sang her songs and admired her for creating Superwoman and Karma, I would never deny her, her talent. I believed in her until I found out she was possibly sleeping with my husband. The affair was denied by both, until it was finally admitted months later.

Already I can hear some of you saying " why are u blaming her, You cant make someone leave their wife, You cant break something thats broken". Well, my marriage was not broken, as far as I knew we were celebrating our sons birth and getting ready to celebrate our 5 year wedding anniversary . Call it blind love, whatever. I call it being a devoted wife.. As far as me blaming her and not blaming him, thats false. Me and my husband have worked out our differences. We are in a good place as people and as parents. I accept his choices and I am comfortable enough with myself to move on. I am so very blessed in many ways.

My concern with AK is no longer the fact that she assisted in destroying a family but that she has the audacity to make these selfish comments about love and wanting to be with someone, even after knowing their situation. How is this the same Superwoman that I sang out loud with in my truck? I ask myself sometimes.

If you are reading this Alicia, let me start by saying, you know what you did. You know the role you played and you know how you contributed to the ending of my marriage. You know that I asked you to step back and let me handle my family issues. Issues that you helped to create.
Im not saying everything was perfect all the time but no relationship is perfect. We made a vow to God and I believe you should have respected that, as a woman. I know you owe me or my son nothing but I just wish you would've handled things more carefully. I'm not judging you, I put you and the whole situation in the hands of God, the Higher Power. Just know that as a woman, I expected so much more from you. I never had intentions on reaching out to you this way but after reading your twits tonight, and the constant disregard, you left me no choice. I feel that after 1 and a half years of you hiding this affair and acting like it doesnt exist, that now is the time to confront it, since you talk so openly about it now

This is not a publicity stunt, I dont have a record coming out. I just need to close this chapter in my life and that means confronting our issues. There is a small child involved. His dad loves him to death and he wants to spend more time with him but hes afraid because he knows we don't have a relationship. This is my main concern. My son NEEDS his dad and I NEED to be comfortable with you. For him!

I know many will see my point and many will not be able to look into what's real because they only want to see Alicia Keys the celebrity, not the human. This is not for the "people", this is for you. Like I said I was left no choice but to reach out to you this way. By now, Im sure you want to find a balance in this as well.

I read your tweets tonight and I felt they were very insensitive. You have no idea how much pain I was caused because of this affair. Its baffling to me that you don't understand what I might have gone through with this situation. I dont consider myself a victim anymore, Ive learned alot from this! I just ask you to try and be a bit more realistic and delicate to the situation, at least until my divorce is final. I felt me attending the party would have been a starting point for us, since you shook my hand after I offered it, but I suppose I was wrong.

If its so, that you and my husband are meant to be together, then God bless you both and I hope you never have to deal with what I did. I would not wish it on my worst enemy. If you two being together forever is the case, its more of a reason for us to get along, because I'm not going anywhere. Theres a child to be raised.

To answer your tweet, choose smart over spark. Sparks burn everyone, be smart! Its simple actually, just think of the shoe being on the other foot.

Stay blessed and lets work this thing out with respect and dignity.

I say:
Yeah, she needs to gather herself and move on. Yeah, Alicia Keys shouldn't respond to this needless damaging one-sided banter/ harassment. Mashonda lets her husband off the hook but is publicly asking to be friends with Alicia, praising her even? Man I wish-I-would! I'm the prize. I'm the woman - not the MMF (married man __cker). While I take my vows seriously, I can't speak for my husband. He has his own soul, mind, and body - and can do with it what he wishes - as can I. But I'm going home to my husband - none other.

This twitter mess got me to thinking why Mashonda leaves a bad taste in my, and I'm sure, your mouth? She's cute. She's talented. She's ambitious. But it's that Alicia Keys is interesting and seemingly untouched, somehow pure. crazy. Looks are deceiving. Though still Alicia and Swizz Beats make a physically appealing couple - so they win. All the effort Mashonda is putting into reaching out to Alicia will be fruitless. Alicia wants your man boo, not his child, not you. Mashonda just chill. Skanks want him while they can't have them, married men are only a conquest. They don't want to be a wife - just the outlet for an affair. While I don't know how or why, or when with whom - I do know that Jesus himself said 'blessed be the merciful, the mourners, the pure of heart'!

So keep it together Mashonda. Give it to God and wash your hands of it the best you can.

Matthew 5
You're Blessed
1-2 When Jesus saw his ministry drawing huge crowds, he climbed a hillside. Those who were apprenticed to him, the committed, climbed with him. Arriving at a quiet place, he sat down and taught his climbing companions. This is what he said:
3"You're blessed when you're at the end of your rope. With less of you there is more of God and his rule.

4"You're blessed when you feel you've lost what is most dear to you. Only then can you be embraced by the One most dear to you.

5"You're blessed when you're content with just who you are—no more, no less. That's the moment you find yourselves proud owners of everything that can't be bought.

6"You're blessed when you've worked up a good appetite for God. He's food and drink in the best meal you'll ever eat.

7"You're blessed when you care. At the moment of being 'care-full,' you find yourselves cared for.

8"You're blessed when you get your inside world—your mind and heart—put right. Then you can see God in the outside world.

9"You're blessed when you can show people how to cooperate instead of compete or fight. That's when you discover who you really are, and your place in God's family.

10"You're blessed when your commitment to God provokes persecution. The persecution drives you even deeper into God's kingdom.

11-12"Not only that—count yourselves blessed every time people put you down or throw you out or speak lies about you to discredit me. What it means is that the truth is too close for comfort and they are uncomfortable. You can be glad when that happens—give a cheer, even!—for though they don't like it, I do! And all heaven applauds. And know that you are in good company. My prophets and witnesses have always gotten into this kind of trouble.

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Paula jokes when nothing is funny...........

VH1 Divas | Divas Video

I haven't been a fan of American Idol since Fantasia won the 3rd Season. But if you can believe it - they have completed auditions for Season 9! I can only name 3 or four winners, let's see:
1.) Fantasia Barrino
2.) Kelly Clarkson
3.) Ruben Studdard

Truth is - I watched until I noticed the rules changing too frequently, and that real singers were eliminated for no reason.

It's just appalling to me that American Idol is seriously creating a Season 9. The show is so played. The contestants they pick are too safe for me. Once the hopefuls get to 'Hollywood' the intensity is drawn out of the show to become politically correct, and ultimately gets boring. Well now they ax Paula Abdul - who was too sentimental to me anyway - and replace her with Ellen DeGeneres?

This show was never about real talent and now that is evident. They could have chosen A&R from Arista or from Cox Records - But Ellen? What expertise does Ellen bring to the show? Dancing or singing, performance? Nope. Just humor – if that’s what you call it?

So Paula does this tired little jig to drop a splash of humor into an otherwise completely bitter departure from American Idol - and I'm not buying it. Paula is weak and easily overpowered by Simon - and that was well past getting on my nerves. So now it'll be Randy against Simon with Ellen as the tie-breaker? I can't say it's sad to see Paula go, glad actually, but why didn't you take the whole show with you?

Good Hair & Indian Hair

Shouts to SA for the movie info.............


Several months ago I just decided to get a weave. It was an experience I'd rather leave to someone else. As for me, it was comparable to wearing a flea infested heavy wool blanket on my head. I haven't lost my desire for long hair, but I have lost my desire to wear a weave.
I choose to perm my hair once every month to 2 months and flat iron pretty much daily. I've tried everything though. But now I just enjoy my hair being soft, sweet smelling, and blowing in the breeze. Yes, I'm addicted to 'creamy crack'. Am I brainwashed? No. Do I want to look like my Caucasoid/ Latino sisters? No. I'm just glad there are chemicals that won't sizzle my hair down to the nub or leave me with a head full of hay. Women can choose to do as they wish and that's what I promote - doing what feels good to you.

But what I am against is these ladies and children in India shaving their heads as an offering but the so-called offereing ends up on the head of any random weave wearing woman you or I might know. If we're all in this together - everyone needs to be on the same page. Sisters we are wearing the religious offerings of women who don't even know where their hair is going. Ya'll need to know and they do too.


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Tim Wise: On White Privilege

Mr. Wise is a racist or realist, I can't decide. I'm leaning towards realist because he references history which can be verified. But racist possible because his platform remains focused on the black/white divide - always showing the white portion in the worst light. Race problems will always exist simply because ignorant people will exist. Ignorance will always be the loudest and the most identifiable - and the easiest to exploit. An over-abundance of proof that racism is no longer as effective is all around us. But the incarceration of black  and latino men is effective. Racism doesn't have to be a separate water fountain - it is easily done by removing opportunites for men to succeed. give us that back.


I hate blogging about race because someone always ends up a little offended. But it's important, important to be a voice for those who are okay with blacks, whites, Asians, Arabs, and South Americans, Africans....whatever, etc. Most all people are fine by me. I don't care if you haven't learned English - your choice. I don't care if you drive a gas guzzler or a smart hybrid car. I don't care if you pray or don't before a meal - I will. I even don't care if you don't/ won't say 'Bless you' or 'Excuse me' at the proper times. I have settled in my soul to allow people to live as they wish - so long as I am free to do the same.

I hate weak people, and bullies, frightened people, and stupid people, people that are reckless, and people that waste money and won't/ don't/ can't prioritize. I hate racists, and people that a too serious or not serious enough, people that pass their foolishness onto their children, I hate people that care nothing about our environment, and those that are needlessly mean spirited. I hate people that beyond high school seek no additional knowledge, I hate women that intend to live their whole lives either dangling on a silly man's every word or dropping it low and jumping bed-to-bed instead of growing gracefully wise. I hate men that have no backbone, don't speak their minds, and men that don't state what is right. And I hate a whole laundry list of other things that I'm sure at one point or another I'll share. Not now.
But I love All races.

....crazy huh?

Kanye's stole Taylor Thunder....

If ever there is a dull moment - no worries - look to Kanye to shock those that are easily shocked. Last night Kanye bumrushed the stage during Taylor Swift's acceptance speech for Best Female Video and said Beyonce had one of the 'best videos of all time'. Normally he says what should be said, but since his mother passed his attitude is becoming reckless and mean spirited. Though I agree with his statement he was wrong to interrupt the girl's actual acceptance speech to broadcast his feelings. Poor Taylor, but it was funny. To see how happy-go-lucky she is to have an award basically ripped from her pale mousy fingers - hilarious.

HE came back and apologized for her being offended, but what was said needed to be.......Kanye Tweets today an apology that probably poured salt on her gaping wound, lol.

I’M SOOOOO SORRY TO TAYLOR SWIFT AND HER FANS AND HER MOM. I SPOKE TO HER MOTHER RIGHT AFTER AND SHE SAID THE SAME THING MY MOTHER WOULD’VE SAID. SHE IS VERY TALENTED! I LIKE THE LYRICS ABOUT BEING A CHEERLEADER AND SHE’S IN THE BLEACHERS! ………… I’M IN THE WRONG FOR GOING ON STAGE AND TAKING AWAY FROM HER MOMENT!…….. BEYONCE’S VIDEO WAS THE BEST OF THIS DECADE!!!! I’M SORRY TO MY FANS IF I LET YOU GUYS DOWN!!!! I’M SORRY TO MY FRIENDS AT MTV. I WILL APOLOGIZE TO TAYLOR 2MRW. WELCOME TO THE REAL WORLD!!!! EVERYBODY WANNA BOOOOO ME BUT I’M A FAN OF REAL POP CULTURE!!! NO DISRESPECT BUT WE WATCHIN’ THE SHOW AT THE CRIB RIGHT NOW CAUSE … WELL YOU KNOW!!!! I’M STILL HAPPY FOR TAYLOR!!!! BOOOYAAAWWWW!!!! YOU ARE VERY VERY TALENTED!!! I GAVE MY AWARDS TO OUTKAST WHEN THEY DESERVED IT OVER ME… THAT’S WHAT IT IS!!!!!!! I’M NOT CRAZY YALL, I’M JUST REAL. SORRY FOR THAT!!! I REALLY FEEL BAD FOR TAYLOR AND I’M SINCERELY SORRY!!! MUCH RESPECT!!!!! 

luvs it...

This makes me think back to two occasions:
-The first, when Kanye was grieving during a concert and let his heart flow concerning the death of his mother:



-Then the time he said George Bush didn't care about black people on live TV:



Kanye seems very racist.  I think that he's only with Amber for retaliation against 'The Man'. Since his death defying accident and his subsequent rise to stardom he seemed to be a voice for the people - militant black people that is. Lyrically he was colliding real life situations with well written lyrics and crazy unheard-of beats delivering them straight from his heart. But when his mother died all that stopped. Heartless, Stronger, The Good Life - all align with him grieving and trying to put closure to his mothers death.

So yeah, I watched Taylor Swifts E! True Hollywood Story and it was cute. She started writing before she could talk and playing the guitar in the womb, blah blah blah. Cute, really cute. But just cute.

NOT 'Single Ladies' which was more like an epidemic. I love Beyonce. Some might argue that videos are something that an artist can't do onstage, but I say whatever is appealing and promotes the song. So whoever's idea it was to give Taylor Swift an award above Beyonce was smoking.

Thanks Ye for bring light to how at times awards are given as promotion to an artist.

Obama and the 'Liar' heckler.............

Who cares about the disrespect, this Joe wilson is a fool. Do your thang Obama, get this healthcare reform underway...

1 - What Congress really wants is to get its hands on all that loot the med insurance companies already steal from us.


2 - Congress is desperate and looting the med ins industry is their latest target.

3 - Congress wants to divert all the premiums collected by med ins companies into their hands.

4 - Only about 15% of the people will, at any time, use gov't med ins (not everyone gets sick at the same time) so that will free up 100s of billions for Congress to take and spend elsewhere.

Caster Semenya - Brother or Sister?

They say after testing Caster is a hermaphrodite. I hate this. Blacks have long been known to dominate athletics, no surprise. But this situation is about color and origin. Many athletic women produce less and less estrogen over time - which produces the manly muscular physique that most say is a cross between man and woman. But because this woman, who is handing their asses to them, is not marketable - they throw up this man thing.

I think that if the doctor turns to you in the delivery room and says it's a ____, then that's what you are. By reports, they say she has testicles inside that never descended, and a pouch that leads nowhere, no ovaries, no cervix, but a clitoris. The reports say that though she has higher than normal testosterone levels, she is still within the limits of what a woman would have. I think that she should be allowed the corrective surgery that hermaphrodite babies are given to choose either male or female, surgery of sexual ambiguity. It is estimated that intersex conditions occur in one per 2,000 live births.

So this is common.

But why is that black female athletes are always looked at as grotesque, or manly, when other women are seen as fitness professionals. Examples:

 Billie Jean King - Tennis Pro


 





Chyna - Wrestler

I couldn't care less that Caster Semanya is a man. She can run really fast and has an opportunity that some higher ups are trying to steal from her. So, my stance is that this black woman gets my support and admiration for doing HER thang and staying true to herself, if none other. This is surely an embarrassment to her and her family, and I hope they can keep their heads up. Check out the video below, I love this dudes take.........

The Rainbow Twanger

This is an actuall piece of kids TV show "Rainbow". It was broadcast some time in the early 80's in the UK. Don't know how they got away with it!?!? personally I think the producers were on acid.

Diddy's Dirty Money video

Video and Song are so hot I'm melting. I love it. I  hate Diddy so I'm jamming and hating all wrapped up together. Auto-Tune lives! whew!

I'm so done with Dawn and Diddy's love affair. It so boring. why does he love boring women? Just guessing, but Dawn and Diddy been at it for a while right? Just guessing.....She was getting it in with both the whole time. I bet that was a business decision on Diddy's behalf. I bet Dawn was totally down for the whole thing.