Ashanti and Nelly were never together

last week Nelly goes out of his way to publically wipe Ashanti's ick off of him by saying Ashanti were never together, then she chimes in in almost an echo like statement to say they're 'friends'.

Most women have male friends that others confuse to be more than simply platonic friends, but in my experiences, you clear that up as soon as the confusion appears....not ten years later.

We're friends.

Very simple. The term friends has been unnecessarily stretched beyond the normal definitions. So when you say we're friends, people still chuckle a bit. But why? Are people so sex crazed that if they were approached by a male or female that they couldn't speak normally and not romantically?

I'm a woman and the best friends out there are male. They are easy to talk to, they can offer a male perspective, and if you're lucky, they can give good sound advice. I go to my female friends and they almost repeat what I already felt, but ask a guy and they uncover things that women simply wouldn't.

So you've gotten this male 'freind', and he's cute and interested. You start getting all turned on and so you do 'it'. 'It' was great, the chemistry was there, the sparks, the blah blah blah....so do you continue to screw around in secrecy or do you allow a romantic fling to blossom? Well, whatever you decide, be sure that you don't let everyone in your business. Privacy counts for a whole lot in friendships, and blabbermouths seem to always be looking for friends.

I've heard from men often that they can't stand that when they meet women that the woman is always in mack mode and outwardly putting off flirt vibes from the first glance. They say that women should be more casual and laid back, if you would like to be friends. But casual and laid back is an expressway to freindsland and no looking back. So where the path to I would like to be friends first and once I get to know you then maybe we can talk about hooking up?

Some people would rather do the first glance flirt then to actually see if this person can interact with you in a typical situation...see if you like each other. Nothing worse than to be initially attracted to each other to find out he loves his dog, and you hate dogs. Or that he's a serial macker and you're going out on a date with him, ewww. Better yet, he's a punk, and not in the technical type way, but a soft, scary, bitchass dude.
 Me, I like to admire from afar (chicken) then wait for the right opportunity, lol. That's how you miss out on meeting, getting to know each other, interacting, and offering up yourself for observation. Let a guy see you in action with your girlfriends, with his homeboys, let him observe you being straightforward, helpful, honest, funny, and captivating. After he's interested, don't lose him to being slutty and heading straight for the bedroom, hook him into being a faithful friend, one that won't blast you on the radio, saying ya'll aren't together and never were. What a disrespect! You lay up in secrecy for years to be thwarted with 'we never were together, nor will be'.

Perhaps they weren't but instincts are telling, and mine tell me Ashanti and Nelly have been getting it in. And what a great looking couple. Is either with someone? Are they trying to stay single for their fans for marketing purposes? Why else would you hide smashing Nelly or Ashanti? Did he mess with her before she was of age? Do they have an open relationship, free to see whomever, or a committed home/lover/friend relationship that vocally denies one another? Just asking...I've know a couple that went years creating fake boyfriends while creeping off together for the sake of their families.

For Nelly and Ashanti, you look great together, and you're both kinda washed up and lame, so get together and do it up, nobody is watching or cares.