World Trade Center October 2010

I was Cullen coming from Pearland the other day, #34 for the fastest growing cities in the U.S., and as I passed the Beltway I saw that a Jack in the box was put up near the corner. I thought to myself how quick they put a whole food resturaunt in a few weeks....

Would you like to order two BigMacks to get a free apple pie? .....uh. no.


But today, they report that the World Trade Center will be done sometime next year, in 2011.

With respectful condolences and empathy to the familes and everyone who lost anyone on September 11, 2001. But why is that site not together? In ten years, can't they exhume all of the bodies, bury them, carry away the debris, fix any structural damage to the area, level, and construct a memorial? Why does it take ten years?

Virginia Thomas requests apology from Anita Hill

Bitter ass Virginia Thomas, the wife of infamous Clarence Thomas, Supreme Court Justice and poster child for sexual harassment at the workplace, contacted Ms. Anita Hill 19 years after testifying that Justice Thomas had come on to her while in his employ.

Ms. Thomas to Ms. Hill:
"I just wanted to reach across the airwaves and the years and ask you to consider something. I would love you to consider an apology sometime and some full explanation of why you did what you did with my husband. So give it some thought and certainly pray about this and come to understand why you did what you did. OK, have a good day,"

This obviously has been eating at her for literally 19 years, and I guess she pushes through all of the jumpoff rules and goes after the #2 woman. I mean, how junior-high-ish to contact the other woman when your man is the only one you should be talking to. Get your man straight and there would be no #2's, ho's, jump-off's, etc's...

Ms. Hill replies that the call was inappropriate, but had Ms. Thomas called me, Ms. Thomas would NEVER EVER AGAIN call another jump-off. So for the Ms. Thomas' of the world, let me make a statement, not as a jump-off, but as a considerate woman passing along a little bit of game.

Calling the other woman only makes you look like an idiot who cares about a dog that doesn't even love you enough to be honest about the status of your relationship. A  man worth checking ho's for is a committed man totally devoted to you and honestly comes to you to scrape some scallywag off of him....like, hey...my man told me you have been pushing up on him and that you said what I don't know wont hurt me....Is this true? This is perfectly okay.



But if you hear rumors that your man is getting it in with some young cute broad...go to the source...YOUR MAN. Don't go to the woman, don't smear her name, don't embarrass yourself. Painting the walls with your business only temporarily specticalizes your joke-of-a-relationship and make you look like a fool. If you care enough to do something, dig in his ass. Tell him you no longer respect him, tell him he hurt you, describe in full detail your boundaries and limitations. Involving the other woman only makes the crowd compare you against the other woman and ultimately demotes the wife to a mere woman holding on to a diminishing relationship that no person would be proud to be in.

In my hey day wifey calls me to, like Ms. Thomas, reach across the airwaves, lol. Called me all kind of ho's and b's, told me she was going to find me and drag me like a rag doll, called me stupid for messing with him - like I was chasing him...when in truth he was chasing me! He was the liar, he said he wasn't married, didn't even claim this wife. He was ready to trick his money and do whatever whenever to play. He called me non-stop, told me all about his family, brought his son to meet me, took me out, introduced me to his friends, spent crazy time trying to be in my presence....what was considered to me as dating.

So I say Ms. Thomas, You're calling me when you should be speaking with your husband, loosely termed, mostly about his pursuance of me. I'm not the ho, I'm simply single, he's the dog. I may be naive to not follow him home, but unlike you, I'm not crazy / I don't care about him like that. I just met him. Now that I know about his relationship, it's over. But I feel that I'm the one who won. I got to meet someone else while Ms. Thomas is still married to him calling the next woman, holding on to bitterness 19 years later, lol.

How I see it, If you want to be married, marry a man that wants to be married and commits equally. Til death is serious, but to me, once adultery has been committed, all bets are off. If I stay with him beyond some cheating, it's because there is some benefit that I'm holding onto that means something to me, like family. Things like family can be created with another, you can buy new houses, start over again, and re-offer yourself to the world more mature and wise.

One thing I have learned is that life waits for no one. Fantasizing about an idea or shoulda, coulda, woulda'ing everything in your mind is not living. Live fully in the world, because we only get one shot, you gotta make it count. I'll be damned before I spend my whole life un-happy, chasing validation, and being embarrassed each time I fall in public with a man I married.

Ms. Thomas (clearing my throat) leave that ho and get over being cheated on...there's happiness out there for you.

Ashanti and Nelly were never together

last week Nelly goes out of his way to publically wipe Ashanti's ick off of him by saying Ashanti were never together, then she chimes in in almost an echo like statement to say they're 'friends'.

Most women have male friends that others confuse to be more than simply platonic friends, but in my experiences, you clear that up as soon as the confusion appears....not ten years later.

We're friends.

Very simple. The term friends has been unnecessarily stretched beyond the normal definitions. So when you say we're friends, people still chuckle a bit. But why? Are people so sex crazed that if they were approached by a male or female that they couldn't speak normally and not romantically?

I'm a woman and the best friends out there are male. They are easy to talk to, they can offer a male perspective, and if you're lucky, they can give good sound advice. I go to my female friends and they almost repeat what I already felt, but ask a guy and they uncover things that women simply wouldn't.

So you've gotten this male 'freind', and he's cute and interested. You start getting all turned on and so you do 'it'. 'It' was great, the chemistry was there, the sparks, the blah blah blah....so do you continue to screw around in secrecy or do you allow a romantic fling to blossom? Well, whatever you decide, be sure that you don't let everyone in your business. Privacy counts for a whole lot in friendships, and blabbermouths seem to always be looking for friends.

I've heard from men often that they can't stand that when they meet women that the woman is always in mack mode and outwardly putting off flirt vibes from the first glance. They say that women should be more casual and laid back, if you would like to be friends. But casual and laid back is an expressway to freindsland and no looking back. So where the path to I would like to be friends first and once I get to know you then maybe we can talk about hooking up?

Some people would rather do the first glance flirt then to actually see if this person can interact with you in a typical situation...see if you like each other. Nothing worse than to be initially attracted to each other to find out he loves his dog, and you hate dogs. Or that he's a serial macker and you're going out on a date with him, ewww. Better yet, he's a punk, and not in the technical type way, but a soft, scary, bitchass dude.
 Me, I like to admire from afar (chicken) then wait for the right opportunity, lol. That's how you miss out on meeting, getting to know each other, interacting, and offering up yourself for observation. Let a guy see you in action with your girlfriends, with his homeboys, let him observe you being straightforward, helpful, honest, funny, and captivating. After he's interested, don't lose him to being slutty and heading straight for the bedroom, hook him into being a faithful friend, one that won't blast you on the radio, saying ya'll aren't together and never were. What a disrespect! You lay up in secrecy for years to be thwarted with 'we never were together, nor will be'.

Perhaps they weren't but instincts are telling, and mine tell me Ashanti and Nelly have been getting it in. And what a great looking couple. Is either with someone? Are they trying to stay single for their fans for marketing purposes? Why else would you hide smashing Nelly or Ashanti? Did he mess with her before she was of age? Do they have an open relationship, free to see whomever, or a committed home/lover/friend relationship that vocally denies one another? Just asking...I've know a couple that went years creating fake boyfriends while creeping off together for the sake of their families.

For Nelly and Ashanti, you look great together, and you're both kinda washed up and lame, so get together and do it up, nobody is watching or cares.