Going through the Celly...

I realize that I haven't posted in a while and rightfully so...I haven't had the time, but I have had the inspiration. There are so many things happening that I can't hardly keep up. But press on I must.

I have a question for you...under what circumstances is going through someones cell appropriate? Floyd Mayweather recently fell victim to prying his child's mother's phone, ended up seeing that she was texting back and forth with Chicago Bulls forward CJ Watson...it got physical. I hear some charges about 'Grand Larceny'.

What does privacy mean anymore? I'm a woman and I dig, rather dug, lol. But digging always renders something, if nothing but curiosity and ill will. Needing to know, to me, is the same as knowing, and my gut tells me most of what I need to know. Instinctively speaking, can't your body and spirit tell you when something isn't right? Mine does. Whenever something isn't right my gut plummets a bit, and instantly the wheels in my head run through all of the possible scenarios and worst probable outcomes. That feeling and process is enough to confront the person or whomever right away, rather than allow that feeling to brood and fester.

Confrontation is always best. Handling things calmly and dignified is the quickest way to better outcomes. Say what you feel and be direct, you may not get the response that you came for, but at least you're handling the situation as an adult and not as a crazy person, whom no one in their right mind would deal with. Invading someones privacy is a historically proven way to remove yourself from someones life.

So that person wouldn't tell you otherwise? Then admit that you don't believe what they say and move on. Say your instincts or spirit says something different than their story, that something is there and you want to know what is going on, that the issue won't rest until resolved, but move on. Allow that person to answer you. Terrifying a person into responding will only give them ammunition to placate you and become fearful of the boiling situation. However, with a cool responsible attitude, approach the person, ask, and allow them to respond in their own time.

What kind of person wants to reflect back upon their life and recount many relationships ruined because the opposite person felt threatened and frightened by you? A person that cares too much for the possession itself (relationship) than love for themselves. In life there will be loss, but when responding to situations involving people, a certain level of care and tact is required.

So care, tact, responsibly responding, blah, blah, whatever....so you find yourself digging through the phone. You go to the text messages, you're reading the banter between your man/woman flirting and generally connecting. You read some other things...totally pissed. You note that there are more than 1 or 2, several in fact. You go to the pictures and it's loaded with nudity and obscenity....beyond pissed. So what now? Do you go crazy on the person, destroy the phone, forward yourself every disturbing text and picture, get all the numbers out of it that you can, call the named individuals? No. Don't. Put the phone down and get away from it. The proof is enough and explanation and apologies will only worsen the pain from disrespect and disregard.

Trust yourself. Love yourself. If the person is a girl/boyfriend, lover, or spouse...from self-confidence and self-respect draw the strength you need to count your losses and move on. You'll wonder in a few years why you didn't end that relationship sooner.