Madam Folly and Dame Wisdom

Crazy true I stumbled upon a conversation of my family's yesterday about Ben Rothlesburger and his rape case. I was shocked to hear some of the general feelings men have about women. They basically felt this woman, or any other, was not raped at all and that she is just retaliating because she didn't get some amount of money. I did a little search that lasted only 5 mins and within that short time I found out that Chris Rock, Dakota Fanning, David Copperfield, Mike Tyson, Anthony Anderson, and Kobe Bryant all had some ties to rape. Then I got to thinking about other sexual scandals that had popped off (Bill Clinton, Eddie Murphy, Steve McNair, New York Governor Eliot Spitzer, Isaiah Thomas, Governor McGreevey). Rape is something so effing different though. I don't think I know a woman that would throw some blame out there like that, pinning someone down versus doing some totally extra nasty stuff with a jump off is very definable. Though, for today, I'm not addressing Anthony Anderson, who I really think raped that girl, I'm addressing men, married men, their insatiable lustful ways, and their scummy side bitches. The perfect relevant example - Steve McNair. Sorry, this man can't get any rest for me blogging his wrongs. But in study of Proverbs 9, where Madam Folly and Dame Wisdom are fully described, I realized that although the scripture actually speaks of good and bad women, it actually can be interpreted as the Kingdom of God versus the ways of the world. I can be preachy so I won't go there, but I do want to encourage anyone who still struggles as I do with making good choices. My intent with this blog originally was to give my opinions on celebrity gossip, but I realized this blogging thing is freedom to express whatever I want. And the McNair thing is a very common issue. I have been both the cheating man's wife and adulteress, neither role being fulfilling or secure. I asked this slut once how she fell in love with Mr. Married and her response was simply said - no strings fun turned into feelings. It's crazy how chick started out as a jump off but began seriously fantasizing that Mr. Married not only leave his wife but wife her up. Isn't that the complete opposite though? I think women have to be taught to be honest with themselves and say how they feel. You feel you can't find a man when you tell the eligible man you're seriously looking to get married, so you downgrade all the way to 'married men with no strings attached' (the scummy gooey crap litteraly at the bottom of the barrell), then try to ambush him into a committed relationship. All this creeping........just get a divorce, don't string the wife along for embarresment. Which got me to thinking....If I had to do it all over again I would just have stayed by myself. All these married men games are just too exhausting and don't benefit either woman any. And these ol' trife ass sceaming undercove and underhanded hoes............need to get thier ass handed to them straight like this: ^^^that was not my intent but whatever. I know there are some really good men out there, I shouldn't have to take my hat off because that's what you're supposed to do, but I know several. I was just thinking about responsibilities that you never get any money or recognition for, that's life. but for all the other Sir Follies with their insatiable sexual appetites - I wish they would all take a cruise on the next Titanic.

Hair Don'ts?

So where does it say that you can't take risks, stand apart, follow your own drum? I enjoyed years of doing exactly as I wanted with my hair...cutting it short, weaving it, coloring it, whatever I wanted. I was super bald-headed at one point, at another honey blonde, another 17 inch wet n' wavy. So I'm like whatever when a woman shocks the crowd with a hair style change. 'tis life, right? I guess not. Because people are all in a tizzy over Cassie's, Solange's, and Angel Murphy's hair. Not me. Do as you please. You want to perm it, lay it flat - right on. You wanna flip a wig - go right on head. You feel the need to put in some braids and pin it up in a myriad of ways or let em' hang - you have my vote. Do what feels good to you. True, all that changing and cutting does indicate some levels of self mutilation and identity issues, but once in a while just spices things up. If this makes no sense then you must enjoy the ho-hum life, that's fine. But I like the edge. Feels good that at a moments notice this dye might singe all my hair off and I'd have to rock a wig until it comes back. My Caucasoid sisters don't have these problems to worry with so this is surely angled at those bearing wavy kinky nappy tendrils. Now what I can't enjoy is this thing Mel B. has done to that pretty baby girl. Angel didn't ask for that and if Mel wanted to show so individuality, she should have hooked herself up not the innocent little baby girl. But again whatev. Update: Solange Twittered that she don't care what people think at all:

listen. if. i. wanted. to. make. a. statement. i. would. have. twitpic’d. photo shoot. ect. i. was. simply. taking. my. son. to. school.stupid. paps. took. pic. ive. had. my. hair. cut. like. this. for. two. weeks. i. was. NOT. inspired. by anyone. but. my. self. i. have. done. this. twice. in. my. life. i. was 16. i was 18. did. not care about your opinion. then. dont. care. now.dont. need. your. attention. or. your. co-sign. i am #3. trending topic. before. IRAN. &. some of you cant even locate it on a map. its sad.dont. want. a. edge. up. or a perm. because. im not trying. to make this “a style” or a statement. i. just. wanted. to. be. free. from. the. bondage. that. black. women sometimes. put. on. themselves. with. hair.this. phase. of. my. life. i. want to spend . the time. the energy. and the money. on something else. not in the hair salon.im. not. mad. at . all of you. that have made your opinions known. and have sent negative. energy. my way. i expected this of you.you. have. the right to have. an opinion.so. do. i.ONLY reason i responded to this i have is because i was disappointed to see my name more talked about then #iranelection we. gotta. do. better. people.happy. happy. joy. joy “im no soul girl quipped with no afro, im just my god given name. giggles at the word “rant”… im about to eat roscoes chicken and waffles with julezy and my buddies. not a rant in sight. http://bit.ly/gFSxo sighs.

co-sign XLeslie Tyler

What I'm Listening to....................

I'm no DJ but I have an ear and my ears love the newly updated 'What I'm Listening to...' section to the right of this blog. To just comment on a few, and most are discussion worthy, Missy's demo track is hot. You won't be hearing any of this on an album of hers, but it portrays accurately her true talent and impression on Tweet. Missy has the vision and Tweet, I guess, has the voice. Ced B's U Played Me is on permanent repeat, and isn't coming off any time soon. I love chopped and screwed music, F Action especially, this track for sure. Chris Brown's Not My Fault is hot like fire, I don't think this speaks to any of the Rhianna mess, but dang if he's not right on point (with his childish tail). K. Sparks' Abstract Jazz is an older track I've had, but had to share. Instrumentals are so sick that it's really hard to listen to absorb the verses, but once you do the lyrics don't match. Tamyra Gray is back and coming hard with it, I guess didn't see this one coming. Girl has more soul, and more X-factor, but I'm sure her eyes haven't gotten any closer. I can't comment on The Roots' How I got over, this type of music speaks to your soul. feeling any of these? No? shoot me some back and feel free to Comment.

Shaq and Ced's All Star Comedy Show

For Houstonians, Just Jokin' Comedy Cafe was the spot back in the day. There are some other places to catch a comedy show in houston, but no certain place just for black comedy. So a montha ago I fell asleep on the couch watching something on Showtime and woke up to Kevin Hart's segment of Shaq and Ced's All Star Comedy Jam - needless to say I was waking the whole house up with muffled laughing I tried my hardest to keep in. Well Aries Spears and Tommy Davidson thier segments, then Deray's retardess self gets up and shuts the show down. Check it: What did you think? Did you have a favorite?

Gay Shmay

I would never ever ever put any one's sexuality on blast, and this is not the core of this post, sort of. Well I was reading some gossip that Terrell Carter's ex-lover Alex Cortez used Twitter to out Terrell and even had 2 photos that clearly show Terrell being nuzzled and kissed by a hot latino dude. Not sure who he is, well, he's done some work with Tyler Perry and is coming out with an album soon. For real clarification: Remember in 'Diary of a Mad Black Woman' when Tyler Perry's masculine self's daughter was singing 'Father Can You Hear Me' in the church scene at the end and the young pastor sang a little bit, well that was Terrell. Why is this important? it's not. So many people are sleeping with anyone who returns a wink it's really ridiculous. I see it everyday, it's really shameful. I just couldn't help but speak on how the dirtiest of folks blend in so well amongst the crowd. It's so important to keep an eye out, remain prayerful, and beg God's will in our lives. Everyone has fallen short of the glory of God and needs some guidance to gain back their way. Beware of wicked evil people; they only take - never give.

Proverbs 16:27 A worthless man is preparing evil, And on his lips -- as a burning fire.

As far as this dude that likes men, well that's his own demon. Me, I've got my own. And we have to pray for each other, seriously, and not just blogging. But beyond each sin we commit, if we have another breath, we should use it to repent and sin no more.

Not Airred, Over Airred and Air McNair

It's sad whenever someone dies, but the law of life is that everyone dies at some point. How - is telling of our true lives. We've spent the last few weeks moonwalking and watching the coverage of Michael Jackson's death/life, so it was hard for me to say goodbye to Farrah Fawcett, and now - Steve McNair. Farrah Fawcett was cool, pretty and popular, so I hope that she went out how she lived, great. I never watched any of her movies, and know nothing about her. So why a topic today? not sure. But In research for this post she lost her will to live when she began taking treatments that made her lose her hair - the most famous hair in the world. So yeah, Not quite sure how I feel about that. But yeah, RIP Farrah. But Mike kind of touched me a little. But in truth I feel that when death comes to the celebrity it is glamorized, which I cannot get with. They are regular people too. So yeah, I was rubbed the wrong way when Al Sharpton was summoning the Holy Ghost in the Staples Center during Mike's funeral. I won't go down Molestation Ave, since the boy came out after Mike's death to say he lied, but Mike was a bit disturbed. finished. RIP Mike. Now Steve 'Air' McNair is shot 4x in the head, while sleeping after barhopping by his whore Sahel 'Jenny' Kazemi, who subsequently took her own life. Steve will, I'm sure, be missed by many. I doubt by his other mistresses or even his wife. Sounds like he spent way too much time with other women and football and practically none - with the fam. So am I rounding the corner on saying 'good for him'? not quite. Because as the truth unfolds it's crazy how this Sahel girl was tripping over him. Why though? she knows he's married right? She knows about the 'cheaper to keep her' rule right? She knows that he'd be facing spousal and child support for 5 individuals right? And what did she think was so special that she was bringing to the table as a waitress at 20 yrs of age, wisdom? whatev. I'm just gonna need women to smarten up faster that we make dumb decisions. Quit being all emotional and materialistic. So on an emotional turn she buys a gun, lists all of her furniture on Craigslist.com, tells her family she's moving in with Steve, and then ends both of their lives. There are now reports that she was having some financial trouble. They say that she was making the payments on the Cadillac Escalade that both of their names were on, and that her roommate just bailed on her. To that I say, whatever. I've gone in at lower points in life, stayed down longer, and emerged somehow without shooting folks all up in the head. Now his five boys have to continue on in life without their father. RIP Steve. It's a different story when you take your own life, so good luck with that - dumb whore. For any woman reading this I encourage you to hang in there and make the best choices for you and your family. Be truthful with yourself if no one else. My grandmother found out recently that she is sick, and when I think about all the good that she has contributed to this world I can hardly hold up my head. This would be someone you would miss - not the over glamorized, the self hating, the adulterer, the materialistic............shit has got to get better.

Lauren London's Protruding Belly

Without a doubt I intentionally don't speak on certain things, such as Lil' Wayne but somethings' just been irking me..........Well, There was some tale that Lil' Wayne had impregnated Nivea (like who cares right?) and Lauren London. I know he's reckless with his seed and that is just one thing that I can't respect. I can't respect being reckless with your eggs either, same scenario. So when Nivea has all these babies by The Dream and now with Lil' Wayne, I'm like whatevs, but to hear that Young Bad Bytch Lauren London is pregnant at the same time as a Nivea and by the same rapper that says, 'I wish I could fuk every girl in the world'. I just thought she had more class and sense than to waste her womb and egg with Wayne. I understand if she doesn't believe in abortion, I even understand if Wayne is someone very different in intimate situations, I'll understand most things and hand out passes - that's just my nature - but to just have his baby as a side chick while rumors run rampant that he and Nivea are getting married - just crazy and sad. Maybe she needs love, maybe this is exactly waht she wanted to do, or maybe THIS IS A MISTAKE AND SHE'LL PAY UNWILLFULLY LATER. babies................