Leslie: The Barber

2011-08-30T15:28:00.001-05:00

2011-08-09T12:09:00.001-05:00

Basketball Wives - Full Episodes - Reality TV Shows

2011-08-09T09:35:00.001-05:00

2011-08-02T12:47:00.001-05:00

Basketball Wives - Full Episodes - Reality TV Shows

2011-07-27T11:46:00.001-05:00

Basketball Wives - Full Episodes - Reality TV Shows

...a million apologies...

2011-06-10T22:22:00.001-05:00

Please accept my apology for not writing...I've gotten away and am coming back to you as soon as timer permits. So much has happened and though I cannot recap here and now I will as soon as i can...

#Obama #Shell #GasPrices #Environment

2011-03-22T10:53:00.000-05:00

I have a deep love in my heart for now president Barack Obama, his lovely wife Michelle, and his two sweet daughters. I have been in such blind agreeance with his administration that even though I've heard elsewhere that he respresented the banking industry, I still supported him. I have been disassociative with those that didn't support him and still humming 'Yes We Can' when I see him. Dammit. I hate when I am hoodwinked, hustled and lied to.
Front page Houston Chronicle reads this morning that They have cleared Shell to begin seeking permits to drill 130 miles off the coast of Louisianna. What I hate is this...and hate is a big word...less than one year has passed since the BP Horizon Spill leaked an estimated 206 million gallons of crude oil into the Gulf of Mexico which killed all types of wildlife, 10 people, left the gulf full of dispersants, and left oil still currently stuck to the Gulf floor.
Obama imposed a 7 year ban on drilling in the Gulf December 01, 2010 and in less than 4 months later that statement is as if it had never been uttered. Well I notice and I'm not pleased, quite frankly I'm angry. The drilling companies have leaned on the Obama Administration to allow drilling once again and now that the uprising in Libya has held up a curtain of distraction, they slipped it in under the labels of 'confidence' and 'heightened environmental standards'.
I paid spent $20 yesterday morning @ $3.55 per gallon that my car computer says is going to take me 95 miles. I'm being hustled. When Obama was sworn in gas prices were $1.89 a gallon, but have since risen to as high as $3.79. Right NOW the Conoco on Old Spanish Trail @ Kirby is $3.69. I've been paying on average $2.89 - $3.29 per gallon for what seems like forever, but that has held steady and I'm thinking about car pooling, catching some buses, syphoning some gas...something's gotta give. In one hand you take into consideration gas prices and Oil riggers being out of work, but in the other hand we must be held responsible for our environment.

If we are going to carry on growing, and we will, because no country is going to forfeit its right to economic growth, we have to find a way of doing it sustainably - Tony Blair

Chris Brown Pics, NateDogg, Japan, Libya and Basketball Wives...

2011-03-16T14:00:00.000-05:00

Happy Spring Break!
The kiddos are home and hopefully u r 2...I'm not, but that's ok...Here's some news and opinion for those that have been hiding literally under a rock.

Nood Chris Brown photos leaked recently, leaving my favorite youngsta crush bubbling over...then a promo photo showed him puffing a cigarillo....breathless. I need to get a grip cause he's getting ridiculous cool points with me...gosh. There was some talk that he wasn't packing, too thin...blah blah woompty whomp...lol. Whatever! I'm not on some motion in the ocean talk, but women rate men on some unbelievable D scales. Maybe it's the men too...not sure, but that's a nice size peen and a wonderful looking guy attached to it. Thank you Chris for that shot...my imagination can take care of the rest. Wink

Nate Dogg

The greatest Hook-Man ever passed away on Tuesday March 15 from complications from multiple strokes. He is well loved and will be missed greatly, I'm sure that his family feels the sadness and support that we have for them.

Japan suffered a 9.0 magnitude earthquake last Friday March 11th, followed by a devastating tsunami and many aftershocks that left a presumed 13,000 dead or missing. The aftermath that followed is incredible and has me wondering if this country will be able to rebound. Japan has the 3rd strongest economy, but because of the damage to four nuclear plants, and subsequent radiation leaks the citizens are leaving in droves. Emperor Akihito addressed the nation in an exceptional manner as sitting emperors typically do not address the citizens amid such crisis, asking them to not lose hope and remain strong.

Americans are again collecting money to send to the people there, like recent efforts to Haiti, India, and Katrina. This time I can't afford it...Sorry Japan I have some bills that require some belt tightening and serious attention. I wish them well and advise them to get the hell outta Japan without haste. Radiation is no issue to which you ponder on for any real length of time...leave. I remember when I was a little girl my school took up a project to make thousands and thousands of these little origami cranes for those affected by the Hiroshima bombing and subsequent radiation effects. I hated that project...so I implore the Japanese to leave while the effects are still manageable.

Libyans are giving up on getting Qaddafi's out of office because of recent attacks on the rebellion/ protesters. There is some doubt arising that getting Qaddafi out will ever come to pass. But I still support the rebellion. I'm applauding, waiting and watching, hoping the rebellion survives and removes Qaddafi and institute a true democratic system.

Basketball Wives
This past Sunday March 13, Basketball wives aired the finale and shameful shameful acts were displayed and mostly on Evelyn Lozada's impart. Evelyn has been called out three times this season for actually having sex. I am not the judge but if you're gonna be screwing around, do it in private. Letting to many people into your business is immature and the counteract wont be in your favor. Men are not attracted to even the most beautiful woman if she has dirt surrounding her...men are not that feeble and are not totally consumed by arm candy. Evelyn made herself look easy and shallow. How she responded to Ocho when he asked her why she thought he had brought her to Cincinnati was not graceful and frankly, I was embarrassed for her. He obviously was shocked but went with it both times u came so aggressively onto him...firstly at the table in discussion about he flew her to Cincinnati for sex and then when she came down the stairs in lingerie. Maybe her loneliness or thirst was more than she could handle and this was how she planned to gain at least a lay and fame simultaneously. I guess she really appreciated him gifting her those flowers, boots and airfare.

VBS Meets Sizzla

2011-03-11T16:52:00.001-06:00

Outkast - Babylon

2011-03-04T18:50:00.000-06:00

Outkast - Babylon

I came into this world high as a bird...from second hand cocain powder...i know it sounds absurd
I never tooted but its in my veins...while the rest of the country bungies off bridges...without no snap back
and bitches they say they need that...to shake they fannies in the ass clubs
they go the other route...turn each other out...burn each other out...where a bonified nigga like me can't even get no back rub these days
ain't that bleak on they part...
but let me hold it down...cause they shut you down...when you speak from your heart...now that's hard...while we rantin and ravin bout gats

nigga they made them gats...they got some shit that'll blow out our backs...from where they stay at

I fear the battle's just begun
though we're here someday we will be gone...so i'm hopin, wishin, prayin...to keep my faith in you, in you

What I'm listening to: Kelis - Guilty

2011-02-23T17:39:00.001-06:00

Girls have minds of their own

Don't know why
But my thoughts are completely Out of control
I feel everytime
I'm all alone
I want to let this go
Cause I'm just feeling so damn..

Guilty, just wrong and guilty
He won't get out of my mind
Its all the time its filthy,
Im guilty, dead wrong and guilty
Cause what he does to me inside my dreams
Just makes me feel guilty
Guilty, just wrong and guilty
He won't get out of my mind
Its all the time its filthy,
Im guilty, dead wrong and guilty
Cause what he does to me inside my dreams
Just makes me feel..

Guilty, just wrong and guilty
He won't get out of my mind
Its all the time its filthy,
Im guilty, dead wrong and guilty
Cause what he does to me inside my dreams
Just makes me feel guilty

Guilty, just wrong and guilty
He won't get out of my mind
Its all the time its filthy,
Im guilty, dead wrong and guilty
Cause what he does to me inside my dreams
Just makes me feel..

Wish I could shake this
I'm acting so selfish
How can I do this
What the hell am I thinking
What am I thinking
Wish I could shake this
Im acting so foolish
How can I do this
What the hell am I thinking..

But I feel...
Guilty, just wrong and guilty
He won't get out of my mind
Its all the time its filthy,
Im guilty, dead wrong and guilty
Cause what he does to me inside my dreams
Just makes me feel guilty
Guilty, just wrong and guilty
He won't get out of my mind
Its all the time its filthy,
Im guilty, dead wrong and guilty
Cause what he does to me inside my dreams
Just makes me feel..

Buju Banton Convicted...

2011-02-23T13:33:00.001-06:00

Yesterday Buju Banton was found guilty in a florida court of conspiracy to possess with intent to distribute five or more kilograms of coke, possession of a firearm in furtherance of a drug-trafficking offense and using the wires to facilitate a drug-trafficking offense. He was found not guilty on the charge of attempted possession of a firearm with the attempt to distribute. He awaits sentencing.

They say Buju told an informant that he could easily broker the big drug deal. However, Banton testified in court that he was talking sshit, with prosecutors conceding that he had never put any money into a deal.

Buju now faces 15 years in prison at the least. Much of the case rested on both video and audio recordings made by the informant and the US DEA. The informant received $50,000 after Banton was arrested in December 2009, along with two others.
One of the videos showed Banton tasting coke in a warehouse. A co-defendant apparently later gave the informant just over $135,000 and, along with another man, he has pleaded guilty to all the drug charges against Buju's name.

Buju Banton had a conversation with a paid government informer on a an airplane from Spain to the USA, after which he remained to have contact with this informer.

Then, there are two other people arrested together with him. One of them initially signed a statement saying Buju Banton has nothing to do with the cokane case these people might or might not be involved in. However, both men have joined Babylon and are now accusing Buju Banton in order to get a lower sentence themselves. when the government can't get their evidence, they just intimidate you and say: "plea guilty, we will lower the sentence".

Plea-deals are an abomination, both for truth-finding and for the overall sense of justice. How many people have actually said they were guilty of a crime they did not commit, only because if they keep sticking to the truth they will serve much longer in these prisons?

I think Buju used some but not brokered them...

Lybian Egyptian Evolution - Outting Mubarak & al-Gaddafi

2011-02-23T10:49:00.001-06:00

Lybia is feeling the rippling liberation spreading through the middle east in the wake of Cairo protesters demanding the resignation of Hosni Mubarak, their president since 1981 (hardly two years after I was born). Mubarak's resignation on February 11, 2010 is an indication that corrupt and oil wealthy leaders of the middle east are in their last stages and that democracy is near.
Lybia's Leader and Guide of the Revolution, Muammar Abu Minyar al-Gaddafi has been in office since 1969, and is accused of genocide and other crimes against humanity by his own regime, but vows to fight to the last drop of blood after the Lybian Opposition has taken control over most towns.

These leaders are sour I'm sure. Mubarak is rumored to have cancer and slipping in and out of consciousness, writing his memoirs and bidding farewell...requesting to die as a martyr. al-Gaddafi on the other hand is preparing to sabotage the oil industry by blowing up pipelines, using his wealth and his remaining 5,000 loyal troops to fight for a very long time, vowing to turn Lybia into another Somalia.
A few weeks ago I overheard a conversation by three men discussing why they aren't really supporting the uprising in Egypt, saying that the Egypt protesters didn't support the blacks in America during the Civil right movement. How petty.
People aren't separated by language, race, religion or boundaries, but to me, by culture...who gathers together in tough times. And I, as a black single-mother in Houston Texas, United States support the people having a chance to command their own lives, and spell out for themselves what makes them happy. I encourage them to continue to assess the current state and address their needs together, thinking through each possible scenario carefully.
I wait for North Korea, China, Sudan, Burma, Haiti, Uzbekistan, Iran, Saudi Arabia, Eritrea, Cuba, Syria, Vietnam, and Ethiopia...Come forward.
The time is now. Leaders like Idi Amin, Saddam Hussein, Adolf Hitler, Stalin, Jean-Claude Duvalier, and the 1st through 15th American presidents deserved to be contested. Wrong deserves to be righted.
I'm impressed and hope everyone gets a chance in life to live happily.

What I'm listening to....

2011-02-14T18:15:00.000-06:00

Sunshine Anderson - U Doin' It

Oprah's Mother Vernita Lee and Her Bag of Secrets

2011-02-02T11:59:00.000-06:00

Recently Oprah came forward to reveal that she had a half-sister named Patricia, given up for adoption by her mother Vernita Lee.
Oprah stated that Patricia had contacted Vernita several times in an attempt to reunite, but each offer was declined. Patricia was persistent and finally reached out to Oprah's camp. Oprah decided to meet with Patricia since Patricia was not trying to double deal or sell her story, but genuinely wanted to connect with a family she was related to.
Upon the reveal, Vernita, per reports, collapsed. Friends and family are fearful now of a stroke. Vernita isn't doing well.
While this story is probably more common than not, I don't think the process for the adopted seeking out birth mothers is good. I am a very present and realistic person, preferring to deal with the here and now, rather than the invariable what ifs. Asking myself what would have been if this or that...had I been skinny, or tall, white, male, rich, whatever...etc.
Being mature and realistic, women who give their children up for adoption may miss their children but most live with the secret until they die, never giving any detail about adoptions. That is very sad and unnecessary. We should be more forgiving in regards to women and pregnancy.
Adoptions are so quick and hush-hush, It's really sad how easily children are given up without regard for perhaps another family member taking in the child, or the father asked to have either him or his family members take in the child. Adoptive families care little for the situation of the birth mother and most don't want a relationship with her. These decisions are made on the child's behalf and once the child grows into an adult, it's sad again that the child seeks out the birth mother.

I can only imagine they want to see if they look alike, if they will connect, find out the story of their conception, clues to who the father may be, if there are siblings, if they know....just resurrecting all kinds of skeletons...which leads me to confusion.

I would only make one recommendation to birth mothers, to deal with the baby, assume responsibility, or anonymously give the baby up for adoption. Your name is not required to give a baby away. To leave your name and contact information is enticing to an adopted person. If you don't want to be found, then don't leave any clues.
I'm on the side of right. In terms of becoming pregnant by mistake, it can happen, does happen, and not all the time is the mother married, stable, competent, prepared, capable of being a good mother or provide a good life for a child. So yes, adoption is an option, but prevention is the key.

We as women have to be more transparent with our daughters in educating them these exact example situations. My grandmother would say 'what is done in the dark will come to light', or the other 'that what doesn't come out in the wash comes out in the rinse'.

Vernita Lee is a common typed woman, same situations as many so no judgements there. But rest assured that this isn't the only secret that woman has. She was saved by a system to relocate an unwanted baby to a family that wanted one. Great for the child, and great that she could swallow her pride to offer this child a possibly better life.

Patricia is owed something though, maybe the reuniting she has received, but perhaps she deserves a mother and father who is cautious, unfailing, loving and providing. I'm sorry for Patricia and for anyone who has been abandoned by their parents. This world is cold and mean, and parents are one of the essential elements in learning how to navigate though this. Adoptive parents are a saving grace, bless them.
So if Vernita Lee is palpitating somewhere, it's because she needs to confront her past, mend, rectify, or apologize for shit.
I encourage her though. I encourage her to erect herself, assess her life, reach back and fix whatever it is that she needs to to feel that she is accountable for her actions. I wouldn't worry about feeling like a loose woman, or how it makes you feel like a bad mother. We have all fallen, no one is righteous enough to judge except for the good father.
I encourage you as well, not simply to be accountable and assume responsibility, but to forgive and allow wrongs to be righted by sincere apology.

Happy Black History Month

2011-02-01T10:20:00.000-06:00

It's is time again to honor our black historical fugures that have affected the progress of blacks. Dr. Martin Luther King is the first come to mind when you think of black progression, but while I honor and appreciate Dr. King, the struggle and plight of blacks is far from over.

So while in most places people will eat bar-b-que to celebrate Dr. King, Malcom, Thurgood Marshall, Booker T. Washington, Crispus Attucks, and many many more...I pray.

I pray black people reassemble themselves to point out faults in our own culture and seek to resolve issues that are generally getting worse such as poverty, schools and education, violence and drugs, lack of positive adult role models, AIDS, healthcare, among other serious issues.

I have a dream too....

A dream we could all get along and no one be in competition with one another.

A dream ladies could act like ladies and not slick and slimy, lying, and skrewing around.

A dream where men commit, are loving, providing, and supportive.

A dream where little black girls and little black boys can play in the street and not be looked at as sexual beings.

A dream where men can beat thier chest and for good reason.

A dream where black women don't have to be either sexy or useful.

A dream where black men would excel as much as thier women.

A dream where children are not shuffled through a TAKS focused education.

A dream where the Attorney General is not man of the house.

A dream where women don't have to be whores to get on TV.

A dream we can be through with all kinds of foolishness.

A dream where people are just simple people.

I Have a Dream no?

2011-01-28T09:04:00.002-06:00

Funny...

Update...

2011-01-21T20:38:00.000-06:00

I love to share. But I like sharing bullshit, like favorite colors and what irritates me, but not the really important things. Well a blog that I had done in 2009 was brought to my attention by my now ex, and as I read it I realized that I do have a gift for sharing. Not completely, but as a re-read post it was pretty relateable

Well, the update is that I couldn't get over the cheating. I thought the cheating wasn't so much a physical offense, but rather an emotional fault. The emails that I talked about were intimate, and full of 'love you's' and flirting...talks of our relationship and how bad it was.

Betrayed and increasingly angry, I acted out. Being unnecessarily bland, dodging the house whenever possible, reading between lines, over-analyzing...blah blah blah...I made my kids my whole life and put up a shell.

I moved out and now I have some divorce papers sitting (honestly getting dusty) waiting for some decision.

That was super hard to get off my chest, since it's been nearing a year since the move and still many people don't know.

Selah

Okay, so truth. I felt rushed into marriage. I wasn't really ready, but I still didn't put up a fuss, Oh, I was pregnant. I did love my husband, but I didn't see the traits of a great couple either. We had a baby coming and we both wanted a complete home fitted with mom and dad, dog, backyard, family gatherings...etc.

But we're in this now so let's give it a go... We made it four years and three months, and while we tried to fix what we could and try not let the hardest things to fix not bother us...it still wasn't enough. We were facing some financial problems and he said that one day he was going to leave and I was going to come home to nothing. So I packed up my and my daughters things and bounced. Tearful, hard like unimaginable, but I left nonetheless. I got a little place, couple of problems, but we're safe and together.

THIS is what I wanna say. Failure.

Failure is the worst possible fukkin feeling. A feeling so engulfing and damaging, more horrible than lost love, lost tangibles, rejection, all that and even death of a loved one. I failed as a wife. I should have been more honest, should have worked harder, been more organized, fukked way more often, Should have communicated, should have managed more of the money, should have talked about all of these things before we got married and should have prayed together.

I believe for that marriage, God was the missing element. We were both blessed and we both individually served, but we should have stood upright as a couple to face the word as a unit, not individually. We just could not get on the same worship and service wavelength (?). I went to church on my own mostly for a while, then stopped going altogether because I wasn't really meeting anyone in the church, I wasn't involved, I didn't feel a part, I wasn't being supported in attending, and figured no one would miss me if I never came back. All my fault. I would have made friends if I would have stopped to talk, got in a group, introduced myself, not tossed rocks on the folks as I sped away after service, hahahaha gone to the new member orientation for that matter, lol. You gotta be serious when you call on the name of the father, or it could be dangerous.

Crazy thing is I was simply lonely and hurting from my marriage failing. Even my own father is a pastor and he and my grandmother are always glad to see me when I come, but I didn't go there because I was sulking like a child, and didn't want them to see me without my husband. I found reasons to hide and be alone, things to do privately so one one could witness the mess I had gotten into.

For me, the hardest things in life have to do deal with confidence, and somewhere I found it, and am coming back slowly. I'm not all fukked up, but I am struggling to see myself as a humble and independent, God fearing woman with full understanding of my capabilities. If you pray for me, pray for him too...we both have it hard. A family falling apart is no entertaining blogpost.

My only advice, and you knows how I roll....I always have advice for those that care to listen....so gather round. Okay, if you wanna marriage to last you have to have these things in place to increase your odds of a strong and enjoyable marriage, no particular order other than GOD first.
1. Like minded spiritually. Share the same beliefs, worship the same, able to connect nearly at the same level spiritually.
2. Sexually attracted. You have to like the package you got. Its gonna get old and you're gonna have to keep it up and have fun on it and show it off to whomever, but you gotta feel that sizzle when you see em.
3. Someone who you can argue with fairly, but mostly agree with, someone who understands your wants and knows what buttons to not push, and WON'T push them, lol.
4. Someone who likes the same foods, music, extra-curricular activities, agrees with you politically or at least makes a good conversation.
5. Someone who has confidence in you.
6. Someone who can tell you hard and simple truths, a person not scared of your reaction.
7. Someone who you can rely on when things get tough. You lose your job, get sick, need some money, someone to talk you through tough stuff....u get my drift.
8. Someone who is nice to you. Likes you, wants to be around you, and is good for you.

There are infinite things that could make marriage last, but it still falls on the will of a couple. People stay together as long as they want to, some deal with the craziest shit from each other and still find their way home each day. Go figure. Make you wanna ask what is Love? Some people wanna be loved and adored so badly that they'll take whatever is dished out. Not me. I want what I want or I don't want anything at all.

Damn shame what happened, but as I come through I want to shed all of this anger and defeatist attitude. On the other side I wanna be ready for life and all of the twists and turns that she brings. This ride goes super fast, and you only get to go around once, might as well enjoy the ride.

This blog is mine. I write it, mostly all of my feelings, pretty much what it is. No frills, nothing too serious, usually mindless reading, but I want any reader to know that we are all people dealing with real situations.

...now put that on your wall...

2011-01-13T17:12:00.000-06:00

Ha Ha hardy Ha Ha!

What an inspiration!

Men as Women

2011-01-12T10:22:00.000-06:00

My quick thoughts...

1) Men always get women wrong. Men cannot do women no matter who or how hard they try. Women are by far more complex than any man who I have ever seen attempt to portray or imitate. They just don't have the softness, grace, or feminine attitude that women have. Our approach is just altogether different from men.

2) Whether you are gay or not - do u genuinely. People pull you apart slowly and will judge each layer of everything you do, examining and carefully uncovering weaknesses and faults. Handle your faults before you hand them over for observation. Me, personally I know that i see only slim glimpses into others minds, and that those glances don't hardly show who a person is before they filter out what is not politically correct. So I don't judge but observe - collectively there may be enough to say you know someone.Claiming that you're grown means you can differentiate right and wrong, navigate through life independently and providingly, and can self-discipline. So as long as you know your creator and live as HE commands, you should be good. It's important also to say

Lastly, it's the world that begs for that type of entertainment that provokes the devil. Sickos are everywhere. They are perverted, and involved in all types of disgusting behaviors, and all they want to do is see if you're down. Don't do it.

What I'm Listening to...

2011-01-12T09:28:00.000-06:00

I've been deeply into music lately, and that's about what I have to offer. I did cruise the eastern carribean a montha go and I need to blog about that adventure. But please accept these wonderful tracks provided by the honorable Beres Hammond.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JK5A8iVRHbE&feature=player_embedded

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lIS2ar_bcMA&feature=player_embedded

Oh, unto the ones who think you can do these wrongs and get away,

Woe unto you, and watch out for ur day.

I wish it never had to be, the way I see, this world running,
Shouldn't have to be, 'Cause now everyone's cup is filled with hate and overflowing,

Father, a nuff things a gwan round ya, it's wickeder than before,
We really believe we coulda run things, but it nuh look so anymore, no.

Come down Father, come down..
Come down Father, come down..

What I'm listening to...

2011-01-11T09:48:00.002-06:00

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8VWg9Vu25-A

Vivid Visuals

2011-01-07T17:05:00.000-06:00

Look at those roots....SMH. Okay Rhi let the red hair go, it's not shocking and unusual anymore. Get a new style, but first get a perm.

Estelle got her teeth fixed....good for you Estelle, now if you could just work up some sex appeal...

Oh my....How you've aged....tisk tisk Jazmine....

Who knew a baby dolphin was this cute....I kinda want one for a pet...put one in my backyard...

I hate Astroworld is gone.

Gov. Perry's Inauguration Bar-b-que

2011-01-05T11:19:00.000-06:00

While Texas faces a 20 million dollar budget short fall, Governor Perry plans his third inauguration shin-dig on January 18 on the capital lawn. Tickets are $8. You can buy yours beginning Monday the 10th, and your ticket will include entrance plus a plate of bar-b-que.

That evening there will be a lavish celebration, invite-only and they must pay for tickets, ahem, in Austin's downtown Convention Center. The hall is decked out in massive chandeliers, jewel-toned roses, and two huge centerpieces of fruit and pastries. Performing will be Mary Wilson of the Supremes, Clay Walker, and Ted Nugent.

Perry has been criticized for his luxurious lifestyle. He lives in a $10,000-a-month mansion with a full staff while the traditional state residence undergoes renovation.

Bravo tv's Dr. Tiy-E Muhammad and his bag of lies...

2011-01-05T10:47:00.000-06:00

You know I love Reality TV!

So I was watching the latest episode of Real Housewives of Atlanta and they are still talking about Sheree and Dr. Tiy-E...
Prior to the premier, I read one one of my three favorite blogs that he was dating Shereeand that there was some question to his PhD. I had no idea they would drag this out for four episodes.
Well, here it is: I do a little research today cuz I'm bored, and well looky looky!

Dr. Tiy-E Credentials

CREDENTIALS
EDUCATIONAL HISTORY
Ashwood University, Non-APA Accredited Program 1998-1999. Ph.D. (May, 1999) - Counseling Psychology
Southern Illinois University, APA Accredited Program 1994-1995. Ph.D. (Candidate Only)- Counseling Psychology
Eastern Illinois University, Charleston, IL 1992-1993. M.S. (May, 1993) - Counseling Psychology
Eastern Illinois University, Charleston, IL 1990-1992. B.A. Political Science

Okay so? Well I wanted to just see what type of university Ashwood University was.

Ashwood University - PhD program

So funny, but the degree costs $924. How incredibly funny.

So if he ever has to hold up his degree - he can. What a terrible world we live in where accredited businnesses are liscensed to offer services to aid in deceiving people. I'm from the right-now age group and yes I want what I want right now, but not now like that. Like what happens when someone asks you questions that you can't answer? And to have the audacity to claim 'Life Coach' as a profession, lol!

Single people can be so uber lame. the constant lies and or hiding is crazy. Just be whatever u r and I'm sure that will ward off fakers cause like attracts like right? Why create a new you? Is the real u so lame that you can't even let people meet a little bit of him? Just be real and claim who you are. Don't set up a website http://drtiye.com/ and name it DR. Tiy-E, I mean why doctor? does Mr. Tiy-E sound any less competant to give sensitive advice regarding relationships? Does a person have to attain a PhD before knowing a few tricks to keep a mate? I mean I have only life experience and I can tell you to walk the other way when a man hits you, cheats on you, lies to you, or disregards you.

I enjoy my share of mindless entertainment, yes, but with each object grabbing my attention I also take a grain of salt.

What I'm listening to......

2011-01-03T17:27:00.000-06:00

Long Overdue..... Jennifer & Eric Williams OVER!

2011-01-03T12:20:00.000-06:00

Last night I was horrified for Jennifer Williams, co-star of VH1's Basketball Wives, as her husband, Eric Williams, Former Celtics pro-baller, totally dissed her and their marriage on television.

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Ouch!

I'm embarressed for her. I have a dozen or more comments on them, but primarily I want to bring attention to the fact that he never seemed to really like Jennifer. Couples communicate in all different manners...yes, but I saw no love, I saw no real affection or desire for one another, and I saw no support.

It's quite funny to see how a woman will totally accept poor treatment for the sake of being kept.

I wanna work. I want my own check and I wanna be useful...not a mere life sucking leech.

If I have learned anything from Jennifer and Eric Williams it would be that lame women annoy me.

Have some talent, be somebody, say something, do something, be useful, step your game up. There are women out there that will cook up some hellafide food, make good love to your man, stroke his ego, and make him fall all kinds of in-love...have him feeling like King Dingaling!

Wherever Eric was, he was in no hurry to get back to Jennifer. And what man would?

She is pretty, long real hair, beautiful skin, nice body, cute lady...definitely...but mousy in her ways. She doesn't cook, not at all the domestic type...just a princess. Jennifer Williams does not present herself as anything of value, just a good looking lady.

Even after her man has been spending season 1 and 2 'away', she never puts her foot down and demands that he come home....after all he doesn't play anymore, so where the uck is he? Out making babies for 1!

I don't care and obviously she doesn't either. I'm sure she is happier with his money and without him. I mean his mouth is 'predator' creepy....could u imagine all those teeth coming in for a kiss? And look at the big bump on his head...like his head is having a baby head, lol!...makes my skin crawl...gross! And HE had the nerve to be all dismissive with her, with her leggy good looks! But I guess some other beautiful woman is where his heart is....temporarily.

I am not the novice on relationships. I can't offer any assistance in what she should have done, said, or how she should reason with this. I don't think you can reason with this. I would just go away...far from the likes of bitterass Evelyn Lozada and her unattractive, fraudulent, and under-handed ways. That woman (Evelyn), while beautiful, is evil. She means no good and cares for nothing more than attention. Evelyn needs a real beat-down by Tammy Roman. I would love to see Tammy let off on Evelyn...great match.

...but go away Jennifer...find yourself, get that much needed therapy or whatever you need to emerge as a woman, fully confident and sufficient, taking no bullshit, sparing only those that deserve it. There is no room for talentless, useless, and weak black women. Get it together.

Cabbie Chronicles

2010-12-17T10:33:00.000-06:00

So funny....that cabbie slipped his order for that gizzard combo and curried chicken back with plain rice right in!

time...

2010-11-17T11:05:00.000-06:00

There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under heaven:

a time to be born and a time to die, a time to plant and a time to uproot, a time to kill and a time to heal, a time to tear down and a time to build, a time to weep and a time to laugh, a time to mourn and a time to dance, a time to scatter stones and a time to gather them, a time to embrace and a time to refrain, a time to search and a time to give up, a time to keep and a time to throw away, a time to tear and a time to mend, a time to be silent and a time to speak, a time to love and a time to hate, a time for war and a time for peace.

World Trade Center October 2010

2010-10-22T11:26:00.000-05:00

I was Cullen coming from Pearland the other day, #34 for the fastest growing cities in the U.S., and as I passed the Beltway I saw that a Jack in the box was put up near the corner. I thought to myself how quick they put a whole food resturaunt in a few weeks....

Would you like to order two BigMacks to get a free apple pie? .....uh. no.

But today, they report that the World Trade Center will be done sometime next year, in 2011.

With respectful condolences and empathy to the familes and everyone who lost anyone on September 11, 2001. But why is that site not together? In ten years, can't they exhume all of the bodies, bury them, carry away the debris, fix any structural damage to the area, level, and construct a memorial? Why does it take ten years?

Virginia Thomas requests apology from Anita Hill

2010-10-20T14:53:00.001-05:00

Bitter ass Virginia Thomas, the wife of infamous Clarence Thomas, Supreme Court Justice and poster child for sexual harassment at the workplace, contacted Ms. Anita Hill 19 years after testifying that Justice Thomas had come on to her while in his employ.

Ms. Thomas to Ms. Hill:
"I just wanted to reach across the airwaves and the years and ask you to consider something. I would love you to consider an apology sometime and some full explanation of why you did what you did with my husband. So give it some thought and certainly pray about this and come to understand why you did what you did. OK, have a good day,"

This obviously has been eating at her for literally 19 years, and I guess she pushes through all of the jumpoff rules and goes after the #2 woman. I mean, how junior-high-ish to contact the other woman when your man is the only one you should be talking to. Get your man straight and there would be no #2's, ho's, jump-off's, etc's...

Ms. Hill replies that the call was inappropriate, but had Ms. Thomas called me, Ms. Thomas would NEVER EVER AGAIN call another jump-off. So for the Ms. Thomas' of the world, let me make a statement, not as a jump-off, but as a considerate woman passing along a little bit of game.

Calling the other woman only makes you look like an idiot who cares about a dog that doesn't even love you enough to be honest about the status of your relationship. A man worth checking ho's for is a committed man totally devoted to you and honestly comes to you to scrape some scallywag off of him....like, hey...my man told me you have been pushing up on him and that you said what I don't know wont hurt me....Is this true? This is perfectly okay.

But if you hear rumors that your man is getting it in with some young cute broad...go to the source...YOUR MAN. Don't go to the woman, don't smear her name, don't embarrass yourself. Painting the walls with your business only temporarily specticalizes your joke-of-a-relationship and make you look like a fool. If you care enough to do something, dig in his ass. Tell him you no longer respect him, tell him he hurt you, describe in full detail your boundaries and limitations. Involving the other woman only makes the crowd compare you against the other woman and ultimately demotes the wife to a mere woman holding on to a diminishing relationship that no person would be proud to be in.

In my hey day wifey calls me to, like Ms. Thomas, reach across the airwaves, lol. Called me all kind of ho's and b's, told me she was going to find me and drag me like a rag doll, called me stupid for messing with him - like I was chasing him...when in truth he was chasing me! He was the liar, he said he wasn't married, didn't even claim this wife. He was ready to trick his money and do whatever whenever to play. He called me non-stop, told me all about his family, brought his son to meet me, took me out, introduced me to his friends, spent crazy time trying to be in my presence....what was considered to me as dating.

So I say Ms. Thomas, You're calling me when you should be speaking with your husband, loosely termed, mostly about his pursuance of me. I'm not the ho, I'm simply single, he's the dog. I may be naive to not follow him home, but unlike you, I'm not crazy / I don't care about him like that. I just met him. Now that I know about his relationship, it's over. But I feel that I'm the one who won. I got to meet someone else while Ms. Thomas is still married to him calling the next woman, holding on to bitterness 19 years later, lol.

How I see it, If you want to be married, marry a man that wants to be married and commits equally. Til death is serious, but to me, once adultery has been committed, all bets are off. If I stay with him beyond some cheating, it's because there is some benefit that I'm holding onto that means something to me, like family. Things like family can be created with another, you can buy new houses, start over again, and re-offer yourself to the world more mature and wise.

One thing I have learned is that life waits for no one. Fantasizing about an idea or shoulda, coulda, woulda'ing everything in your mind is not living. Live fully in the world, because we only get one shot, you gotta make it count. I'll be damned before I spend my whole life un-happy, chasing validation, and being embarrassed each time I fall in public with a man I married.

Ms. Thomas (clearing my throat) leave that ho and get over being cheated on...there's happiness out there for you.

Ashanti and Nelly were never together

2010-10-11T11:44:00.000-05:00

last week Nelly goes out of his way to publically wipe Ashanti's ick off of him by saying Ashanti were never together, then she chimes in in almost an echo like statement to say they're 'friends'.

Most women have male friends that others confuse to be more than simply platonic friends, but in my experiences, you clear that up as soon as the confusion appears....not ten years later.

We're friends.

Very simple. The term friends has been unnecessarily stretched beyond the normal definitions. So when you say we're friends, people still chuckle a bit. But why? Are people so sex crazed that if they were approached by a male or female that they couldn't speak normally and not romantically?

I'm a woman and the best friends out there are male. They are easy to talk to, they can offer a male perspective, and if you're lucky, they can give good sound advice. I go to my female friends and they almost repeat what I already felt, but ask a guy and they uncover things that women simply wouldn't.

So you've gotten this male 'freind', and he's cute and interested. You start getting all turned on and so you do 'it'. 'It' was great, the chemistry was there, the sparks, the blah blah blah....so do you continue to screw around in secrecy or do you allow a romantic fling to blossom? Well, whatever you decide, be sure that you don't let everyone in your business. Privacy counts for a whole lot in friendships, and blabbermouths seem to always be looking for friends.

I've heard from men often that they can't stand that when they meet women that the woman is always in mack mode and outwardly putting off flirt vibes from the first glance. They say that women should be more casual and laid back, if you would like to be friends. But casual and laid back is an expressway to freindsland and no looking back. So where the path to I would like to be friends first and once I get to know you then maybe we can talk about hooking up?

Some people would rather do the first glance flirt then to actually see if this person can interact with you in a typical situation...see if you like each other. Nothing worse than to be initially attracted to each other to find out he loves his dog, and you hate dogs. Or that he's a serial macker and you're going out on a date with him, ewww. Better yet, he's a punk, and not in the technical type way, but a soft, scary, bitchass dude.
Me, I like to admire from afar (chicken) then wait for the right opportunity, lol. That's how you miss out on meeting, getting to know each other, interacting, and offering up yourself for observation. Let a guy see you in action with your girlfriends, with his homeboys, let him observe you being straightforward, helpful, honest, funny, and captivating. After he's interested, don't lose him to being slutty and heading straight for the bedroom, hook him into being a faithful friend, one that won't blast you on the radio, saying ya'll aren't together and never were. What a disrespect! You lay up in secrecy for years to be thwarted with 'we never were together, nor will be'.

Perhaps they weren't but instincts are telling, and mine tell me Ashanti and Nelly have been getting it in. And what a great looking couple. Is either with someone? Are they trying to stay single for their fans for marketing purposes? Why else would you hide smashing Nelly or Ashanti? Did he mess with her before she was of age? Do they have an open relationship, free to see whomever, or a committed home/lover/friend relationship that vocally denies one another? Just asking...I've know a couple that went years creating fake boyfriends while creeping off together for the sake of their families.

For Nelly and Ashanti, you look great together, and you're both kinda washed up and lame, so get together and do it up, nobody is watching or cares.

State of Rap....

2010-09-21T16:54:00.000-05:00

If this is what's hot...then I don't care to be hot...

Best Ever...

2010-09-20T17:15:00.000-05:00

Simply awsome...this is art....

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6UX1320Hq4Y

Jackson State Covers Chris Brown's Deuces

2010-09-20T15:10:00.000-05:00

That was great....

Going through the Celly...

2010-09-15T12:53:00.000-05:00

I realize that I haven't posted in a while and rightfully so...I haven't had the time, but I have had the inspiration. There are so many things happening that I can't hardly keep up. But press on I must.

I have a question for you...under what circumstances is going through someones cell appropriate? Floyd Mayweather recently fell victim to prying his child's mother's phone, ended up seeing that she was texting back and forth with Chicago Bulls forward CJ Watson...it got physical. I hear some charges about 'Grand Larceny'.

What does privacy mean anymore? I'm a woman and I dig, rather dug, lol. But digging always renders something, if nothing but curiosity and ill will. Needing to know, to me, is the same as knowing, and my gut tells me most of what I need to know. Instinctively speaking, can't your body and spirit tell you when something isn't right? Mine does. Whenever something isn't right my gut plummets a bit, and instantly the wheels in my head run through all of the possible scenarios and worst probable outcomes. That feeling and process is enough to confront the person or whomever right away, rather than allow that feeling to brood and fester.

Confrontation is always best. Handling things calmly and dignified is the quickest way to better outcomes. Say what you feel and be direct, you may not get the response that you came for, but at least you're handling the situation as an adult and not as a crazy person, whom no one in their right mind would deal with. Invading someones privacy is a historically proven way to remove yourself from someones life.

So that person wouldn't tell you otherwise? Then admit that you don't believe what they say and move on. Say your instincts or spirit says something different than their story, that something is there and you want to know what is going on, that the issue won't rest until resolved, but move on. Allow that person to answer you. Terrifying a person into responding will only give them ammunition to placate you and become fearful of the boiling situation. However, with a cool responsible attitude, approach the person, ask, and allow them to respond in their own time.

What kind of person wants to reflect back upon their life and recount many relationships ruined because the opposite person felt threatened and frightened by you? A person that cares too much for the possession itself (relationship) than love for themselves. In life there will be loss, but when responding to situations involving people, a certain level of care and tact is required.

So care, tact, responsibly responding, blah, blah, whatever....so you find yourself digging through the phone. You go to the text messages, you're reading the banter between your man/woman flirting and generally connecting. You read some other things...totally pissed. You note that there are more than 1 or 2, several in fact. You go to the pictures and it's loaded with nudity and obscenity....beyond pissed. So what now? Do you go crazy on the person, destroy the phone, forward yourself every disturbing text and picture, get all the numbers out of it that you can, call the named individuals? No. Don't. Put the phone down and get away from it. The proof is enough and explanation and apologies will only worsen the pain from disrespect and disregard.

Trust yourself. Love yourself. If the person is a girl/boyfriend, lover, or spouse...from self-confidence and self-respect draw the strength you need to count your losses and move on. You'll wonder in a few years why you didn't end that relationship sooner.

Swizz Meat...

2010-09-13T12:51:00.000-05:00

Case Closed.

Why can't we have a Mecca?

2010-08-30T10:19:00.000-05:00

Two days of the week I'm off work, and I use these two days to get myself together, meditate, read, hand out with the kiddies, get them ready for the upcoming week, worship, and just pay attention to myself, and pay attention to my family and friends.
I had so many things that I wanted to blog about, but didn't have the time to do so this weekend.
One thing, I think that African descendants of North and South America should have a coming together every year similar to Mecca. A gathering that should focus on family unity, worship, commonality, and diversity.

I doubt that most African Amercans would be inclined to attend, not seeing the validity, nervous to be in any space with a huge amount of their own people, which is also valid reason to gather.
I believe in one God, the Father. Jesus, Son and through which I pray. Holy Spirit, which intervenes for me in certain instances, and carries out God's special wishes and protects His children.
I have gone through a journey in my life and have continually changed my religious practices to temporarily exclude pork, to meditate, catch the Holy Ghost (don't do that anymore), to fast, to pray continually, to study with some regularity...things like that and not all at the same time. It's safe to say I'd like to go to Heaven, lol.
I have slacked up in my worship, because i don't want to be the type to worship using any deities, or special practices in worship. I don't want to be a part of anything that appears as a cult. So I'm not separating myself from sinners, shaking profusely because i'm being overtaken by something other than God, not reading from a book over interpreted or some new version. I steer away from and don't get caught in these types of things.
What I focus on are the words that Jesus spoke mostly, because He said His words are His Fathers and I feel the most connected to His words which were focused on sacrifice, humility, charity, honesty, forgiveness.
My girlfriend invited me to a Sankofa that drove to Galveston, a port where many slaves were brought to America, they . And this notion sat patiently waiting as I talked about Mecca and a black gathering...blah blah blah, I'mma go next time, I think it'll be a great substitute, but idealistically I wish for the development of a largely revered gathering...something similar to the Million Man March.

What I'm listening to...

2010-08-20T10:23:00.001-05:00

Things that Leslie likes...

2010-08-17T10:22:00.000-05:00

Chicken Florentine

Malia Obama swimming in Spain

I don't really like this but why id there only one bag of rice being shown, and why does dude have a bat?

Sharing again...

2010-08-05T12:10:00.000-05:00

Okay so people are so full of themselves - so selfish. Performers really....thinking one thing while carrying out another. Not me. I'm glad I am who I am, and I'd like to share that I never ever want to appear perfect - it's not natural and seems very fake - everybody notices and doesn't take you seriously. It makes the performer a fool and a liar for attempting to convince and the 'audience' at least a fool for entertaining such ridiculousness. Don't put on for people, we'll accept you more if you come genuine.

As for me I share and say what I want, then couldn't care any less that people cast judgment. My advice to anyone is to just be yourself. Charading yourself or trying too hard puts people off. If you don't know what to say...don't say anything, enjoy some quiet. But if you've got something to say, say it. Don't be scared, and don't stop until the point you had in your head is digested in the ear.

I guess the point I'm making is this...when I'm out and about, where ever I am, I observe people and my intuitive antennae are always analyzing. I listen super hard, and pick apart every combination of words, each pause, read body language, while still being able to connect and delve deep into a conversation. What I notice is that some people won't connect, won't actually allow the soul to speak for itself, they just put up the manufactured smile, do the song and dance then disappear thinking thoughts never shared. What a pitiful existence. I believe that we are implored to connect with each other, to share a bit of ourselves no matter how slim the serving.

So in the spirit of sharing, here are a few things about me that you might have not known about Leslie the Barber:

I play the flute, my mother taught me when i was a kid and I'm not entirely rusty, lol. I hate cats. I'd much rather dogs. I used to work at Astroworld for 3 years, I did the tour spill on the train that went around the park. My favorite colors are black and white...together. I used to sing at Jus' Jokin' Comedy Cafe. My favorite food is anything Mexican. I'm clumsy but graceful at the same time. My favorite book series when I was a kid was Sweet Valley Twins and The Babysitters Club. I have 5 real friends. I swim like a fish. I wear a dress most days, pants every now and again. I like to flirt, skin n' grin. I don't like pickles. I don't believe you can be too professional, but people that take their jobs too serious annoy me, go figure. Men that wear pointy-toed shoes annoy me, men that talk with their hands annoy me, and women that wear those sketchers with the round sole annoy me. People that read my blog and don't comment annoy me, but whatev. Playful kids make me smile, good looking calm and confident men make me smile. Alarm clocks don't do shiggity but make me turn over. I don't like eating breakfast foods. I love creamed spinach. And last but not least, I enjoy coming down the slide more than my daughter when we go to the park.

Arizona's Pearce Problem...

2010-07-29T11:41:00.001-05:00

This dude, Russell Pearce, the Senator from Arizona sponsoring the SB1070 Bill, a bill designed to identify, prosecute, and deport illegal immigrants. Arizona's Governor Jan Brewer signed the bill April 23rd. 90 days from that day the bill would be enforced, which would have been today, but Federal Judge Susan Bolton filed an injunction that blocked many of the most controversial parts of the bill, temporarily. So it's not yet a crime to be Hispanic standing on the side of the road soliciting work, with no papers, no ID, but with tools.

Russell Pearce has a long history, one riddled with supremacist group memberships, racists remarks, an abusive nature towards his wife, and tampering with state driving records. In a recent story on NPR, he was quoted as saying, "I believe in the rule of law … I've always believed in the rule of law. We're a nation of laws."; and "I will not back off until we solve the problem of this illegal invasion. Invaders, that's what they are. Invaders on the American sovereignty and it can't be tolerated."

Alongside the adults he has also another bill SB 1097 that targets students in public school that are illegal immigrants. The text of this bill reads that schools districts are required by Arizona law to collect data on the amount of illegal students enrolled. Second, the bill requires a report estimating the costs of taxpayer money being used to educate illegal students. Third, if the school district does not fulfill the requirements of the bill, the superintendent of public instruction may deny and hold back the state aid provided to the specific school district.

There is a piece of this story that I feel is the most important, and that is that his wife, LuAnn, whom he is still married to, filed for divorce and stated in the filing that in 1980 Russell choked her and threw her down. I wanted to choke my son the other day and throw him down cause I asked him to take out the trash and he slung his body for the first few steps, neither here nor there, lol! But all of these things go together...racism, a violent nature, lying, deceit...Jus' sayin'.

I didn't load this post with links, cause if you know me then you know I do my research. I just think it's important to know who you're standing behind. I stand behind working hard, fending for family, doing what it takes, bettering situations, giving a chance to those that would otherwise not get one, rehabilitation, adaptation, inclusion, sacrifice, and most importantly charity. There's a drug problem, sure, but why can't America and Mexico work together to figure this one out?

Hillbilly Highway - Devin the Dude, Lil Duval

2010-07-27T13:03:00.001-05:00

Devin the Dude may be known for sharing his love of sticky icky in his music, but he's about to bring that same passion to the big screen. The Houston emcee is currently wrapping up production in Atlanta on the urban marijuana comedy 'Hillbilly Highway,' co-starring Florida comedian Lil Duval, produced by comedian Eddie Griffin and written, created and directed by Damon 'Coke' Daniels.

The film, which also stars Tiny Lister. Jr, Erik Estrada, Gary Owen, Tommy Ford, Keith David, Jasmine Burke and more, focuses on a pair of pot-smoking brothers, Earl and Ray Ray, who go on a quest to find a highway in Kentucky that leads to a "marijuana nirvana." While on the road, the two become embroiled in a fight between two families - the Gatfields and McCroys (based on real-life families Hatfield and McCoy) - and are chased out of town after the families realize that the pair is trying to make off with the weed.

''Hillbilly Highway' is really going to take people by surprise,' said Eddie Griffin. "We have a fantastic team and working with Damon 'Coke' Daniels has been a great experience. I can't wait for the camera to stop rolling so I can see the finished product." Daniels went on to discuss his goal to create films similar to another successful African American director. "I'm building an urban comedy brand similar to what Tyler Perry did, but much more raw and edgy,' added Daniels, whose credits include 'Who Made the Potato Salad' and 'My Baby's Daddy.'

'Hillbilly Highway' is finishing up production next week, though there is no release date set. Devin the Dude, who has never starred in a movie, recently released his sixth studio album, 'Suite 420,' earlier this year.

Watermelon flavored Beer

2010-07-27T11:35:00.000-05:00

I'm sure you've heard tried, or seen this Four Loco or Joose flavored beers that are sweeping through the H. A 32oz can cost $2 and everyone knows someone who drinks them. Urban dictionary defines Four Loko as cocain in a can. I tried one, okay three. They're gross, I just wanted to make sure, and then make really sure. It's funny to sit around and laugh at the idea of flavored beer, and then watermelon of all flavors, lol!

U know they don't have to send out any advertising or coupons, no television spots, no nothing....just put in on the shelves and stand back. They have grape flavored, lemonade, green apple flavored...the list goes on, oh yeah...fruit punch, lol! All our favorite koolaid flavors rite? Mite as well have called it 'red flavored'!

I'm not offended, i think its funny. Funny that I've spent more than $.50 on this atrocity. I've had my last. I didn't realize how bloated beer makes you feel. I was willing to try one because I hate beer, the malty taste, the froth...not my speed. I like sweet or fruity drinks, which is why I tried a Fo Loco. thought I could be one of the cool kids, drinking beer, lol.

I'll stick with my Moscotto D'asti, my margaritas and daiquiris, my Amaretto and orange, and my Ciroc and Red Bull.

Next they'll have Reese's flavored beer, lol, or better-yet sweet potato pie flavored beer. There is a major offense here, one that I cannot quite put my finger on, but if I had to point in the direction, It's made by the government and it's basis is racial comedy.

Going Loko for that Loko!

3 Ways

2010-07-23T09:48:00.000-05:00

If you know me, then you know I'm down for reading anything and for the most part I can side with several different perspectives to the point of agreeance with any or none. Well, browsing this morning I saw this pic of Rihanna, Matt Kemp and Melissa, and it struck a chord in me...what if this was an ongoing three-way relationship?

I've seen two functional 3-ways in my life, and I can't say for sure, but I think they looked very happy. There are, I'm sure, another set of arguments, another toothbrush, an extra dresser drawer, more clothes to wash, but besides that what might be the pro's and con's of a polyamorous lifestyle?

Maybe an extra female could stay at home and take care of the kids during the day, an extra male could be an at home handyman, everyone could work and rake in the money, bedroom time could possibly be as mundane as 2ways (I'm sure, the wild stuff only lasts until u get used 2 it), bathroom time could get a little congested, another pallet to please when cooking, another set of in-laws, yet another set of dreams to support. Sounds to me like it could work, but with all the extra effort that it takes to incorporate more than one person, I'm sure someone is neglected somehow, and that, I'm sure, is an ordeal to get over. I need the attention all on me, and all that kissing is probably simple facade, I can't imagine every member having a deep connection. Jealousy is probably as front stage as the attraction, because the connection couldn't be as strong since you're sharing yourself right?

Don't think that I've been recruited, if anything I'm more interested to observe any relationship in terms of how whomever relates to each other. I'm eager to learn or at least consider different ways to enjoy or please someone, ya know like learn a new move or way to resolve some conflict. At 30, I think I'm at the cusp of graduation into a truly adult lifestyle, and if not by now then soon, I should be practicing whatever Imma do, ya know? Not just in terms of professional title, but who I am as a woman and child, as a mother, friend, companion, relative, co-worker, consumer, etc. I think it's important to address every fear and barrier head-on rather than ignore and allow uncertainties to rot and multiply to the point where it's uncontrollable. Someone asked me what my biggest fear was and my honest answer was 'ignorance'. I've wanted to be smart my whole life, and while I'm a little smart, truthfully I'm also very dumb...dumb about how to interact or respond sometimes, how to begin something from raw form and how to follow through, sometimes the correct thing comes right out, other times I struggle. I think it's all in living and learning, but all this is a journey to discovering who I am and what is most important to me.

Back to the freaks....well, I can't say for sure, but I'd be willing to bet that all that free love and uncommittedness won't last...and that's what I want. I wanna stand before my grandkids and tell them about when I and whoever met, tell them how we came over, how we used to love on each other, how we used to fight, how we would agree and back each other. That's what I'm looking forward to, and you can't do that with 4 people in the bed.

Comment anonymously and speak on whether u'd consider a relationship consisting of more than 2.

Too $hort

2010-07-21T11:25:00.000-05:00

They say that $hort Dog was trying to get it in with some underage girls the other night when he got into a fist fight with some bouncers. Short comes back with a response that basically says he would never take advantage of an underage woman.

I'm not the judge but what makes Too $short feel that is a sufficient response. On the real, he's been disrespecting women since way back. Pimps or players, whatev...stand up straight and speak carefully to an older woman to assume the appearance of respect, like saying 'see I don't disrespect all women jus ho's'. I have listened to $hort maybe 4x in my life, and each time I wasn't entertained. I didn't wanna dance, nor did I want to get with him.

So who is his audience? Men? yup.

I guess we're all grown and we can listen to whatever we wanna, but I'm not believing this cat anymore. He's got grey in his beard, and still trying to run groupies. And isn't he from the eighties? His groupies should have aged, young girls shouldnt even be subject to his music (if that's what you wanna call it). I mean with more modern similar rappers out there with equally as nasty lyrics and better beats, $hort shouldn't even sell tickets, have shows, or get a chance at backstage love. How old is this dude, 45?

Whodini? Grand Master what?

2010-07-15T17:15:00.000-05:00

I hate feeling young. It seems everyone i know is older than me, and just knows a different era of music and pretty much everything. I HATE it. There are so many things that I have no clue about like I didn't know who KRS1 was....I really don't know if I even spelled it right, lol! Like who?!?!? I even asked, 'So he raps'?

Funny.

Who cares. I have other talents. I can do thing with my....now isn't the time, :)

So, I'm not really motivated or inspired really, I haven't heard anything that I think is awe inspiring. Wait a minute, that may have sounded like disrespect, but it really is ignorance.

So, this is my plea to all of the ol' schoolers, haha, hip me. Seriously, you have to give me some map to follow or suggest something. Whodini? Grand Master what?

A new Venture...

2010-07-07T14:26:00.000-05:00

yeah yeah...been a while...gettin' it from everywhere.

It's crazy how people comment to me about my blog but won't click on the comment button and say it there, why? It used to burn me up...it felt like no one was reading and my blogged thoughts were in vain....but no. I have some readers, thanks.

Okay so I'm inspired. Yes, again....I wanna do some film projects. I've been writing but I don't know what the hell I'm doing, and even got a camera, but don't have anything to film. I don't want to mimic anyone, and I don't want to follow the same path as I'm sure many others that conform to what the audience thinks is interesting or funny.

Nardwaur the Human Serviette interviews like none other and does so with taste, revealing surprisingly very human facts about celebrities. What is entertaining for me about him is how quirky he is...the whole voice, coupled with the attire...yeah, very funny.

I'm inspired...I think I could do something, not sure what...but, something.

I have an opinion that many of you don't agree with, but what I appreciate is the reasoning of the other side. I don't always agree with the other side, I agree both ways mostly. I don't have to be left or right, I have no problem being grey.

There are great films out there, why Tyler Perry is still whirling around in a dress...not sure. The thoughts of grown black women and men is far beyond slapstick, racial comparison jokes, Vulgar VH1, and BET Bullshit. I talk politics. I like history and culture. I like literature, I read dammit. My limit is not comedy and sex.

I hope to do something soon...If you have any ideas or would like to be in film...you know what to do...yeah, hit comment, lol!

Lauryn Hill still got it...

2010-06-18T17:21:00.001-05:00

Lauryn Hill performed at the Harmony Festival 2010 in Santa Rosa, California a few days ago. Wyclef said she needed some psychiatric help (click here for audio). He go goes on about leaving her heartbroken, blah blah blah....he's so full of himself, and his voice is the most irritating thing ever. ~~ooops~~. oh well. Then, there's the most recent thing that came out about his organization 'Yele'. He was mishandling funds. He was sleeping with a personal assistant that turned out to be the vice president of Yele...something...but she was well paid for her...uhh..work...yeah, $108k. I just think wyclef is a sleaze and is very underhanded. He went years without speaking on his relationship with Lauryn, then to be sleeping with someone else under the table...sounds very likely he'd be stealing and tricking too. Slick don't slide forever....homeboy.

I know I'm re-telling an already stale story, but seeing this video here ignites in me something for her. She settled out of sight because fame wasn't for her, and I like that = humility. And I agree with her on God, peace, mercy, suffering, togetherness, equality, and voicing the struggle. What's most important to me about her is that she can relate like no other female MC. She responded to the paps that she may possibly be working on a new album....I just hope we're ready, cause ready or not .....you can't hide.

Why every Indian wanna be the chief?

Feed a man 'til he's full and he still want beef
Give me grief, try to tief off my piece
Why for you to increase, I must decrease?
If I treat you kindly does it mean that I'm weak?

You hear me speak and think I won't take it to the streets
I know enough cats that don't turn the other cheek
But I try to keep it civilized like Menelik
And other African czars observing stars with war scars

Get yours in this capitalistic system

So many caught or got bought you can't list them

How you gonna idolize the missing?

To survive is to stay alive in the face of opposition

Even when they comin' gunnin'

I stand position

L's known the mission since conception

Let's free the people from deception

If you looking for the answers

Then you gotta ask the questions
And when I let go, my voice echoes through the ghetto

..protecting and serving, lol!

2010-06-16T11:48:00.000-05:00

Take me off the list, I don't want anyone acting like this protecting or serving me. I realize that spotlighting one particular instance where brutal force is used in an arrest sounds a little Anti-America, but I think that police overuse intimidation and authority. These girls were j-walking....and get handled like this? I see the resistance, yeah sure, but put the handcuffs on her and put her in the car, call for back-up.....but i saw absolutley no reason to punch the girl in the face. What I saw was inappropriate handling and disrespect and a freind not knowing what to do when this was happening right infront of her, so she tried to get between what was looking like assault. I say she's a hero, for actually protecting and serving, lol! The officer is the only one that seems to be breaking laws.

I hate driving down the road and nearly having a heart attack when i ride past a cop pointing a radar GUN at my car. Does it really have to look like a gun/ held like a gun? Why do police back up where you can't see them, isn't that unethical? Why is it that when a call involving guns or drugs is made forty officers show up to block traffic and cause a scene, but when you need them (which for me has only been 3 times in my life) they come HOURS after you first call. It seems police only show up to arrest and frighten.

There is no reason for a grown man to ever punch a woman or girl in the face. Not only should this officer be fired with no package, but police departments all across the world should change how they interact with citizens and not simply terrorize.
I think some laws are drawn up to give reason to arrest people. j-walking? what is that? walking across the street not at an intersection? okay... Just sharing.

What I'm listening to....

2010-06-11T13:03:00.000-05:00

VH1 TV Shows

Music Videos
Celebrity Photos
News & Gossip

This b keeps it fresh huh? Sounds good, looks good, Beyonce better keep up.....

Sharon Jones & the Dap-Kings "I Learned the Hard Way"

2010-06-11T12:30:00.000-05:00

I love that sound....

Diva Anita Baker lost her groove.....

2010-06-11T12:24:00.001-05:00

Divas....
It says somewhere that we must respect our elders. I agree. But does it say near that same place 'know your limitations'?
Just asking...because Anita Baker sounds like herself but it's obvious her skills have diminished. Which brought me to thinking that it's plainly obvious that you attack your opportunity when it presents itself, when, if ever, it returns the situation is always a little askew, lol! yes, askew.

Nita is still my girl,but she could have graced us with just one last album, just a few hits, before bowing out. But to return decades later to be pitchy and out of practice, butchering, yes, butchering the National Anthem at a venue like the NBA Finals? I'll pass.

Some divas have held onto it. Look at Janet and Price, lol! Seriously....Gladys Knight still sounds good. Patti sounds great! Mary J. Blige is getting up there and still sounds the same. I'm not so rigid to not allow personal effect on your career, have them, but keep your voice.

Whitney has totally disappointed me with her highly anticipated comeback. The music was okay, but she really didn't appear learned and recovered, just hungry and appeasing. Be a diva dammit! That grand display is motivation for us all, don't be drunk, don't be high, don't be a mess under a wig. Work out, practice, stay with the fashion, be a master of the social scene, and when you're caught slipping do it in a way so that every woman can feel the root of it. Slap someone?

Smooth it back out and smile.
Get wasted?

make it look fun...
When you fall
GET BACK UP!

Having to gather yourself and come back to entertain is the business. Don't get in it if you're not going to see it through. I'm the audience and I want to be encouraged, provoked in thought, made to clap my hands, grind my hips, sing, laugh, cry, gossip about you, spread your rumors, wonder if you really are a shipwreck or completely perfect.....ya know be entertained. Be on your job....

...rooting for you NeNe and Greg Leakes

2010-06-09T10:47:00.001-05:00

There has been much recent speculation about NeNe and Greg Leakes, star of VH1's The Real Housewives of Atlanta's marriage and most importantly their slated divorce. Well, Large FM Radio Host Corey King set up Greg recently by recording his phone call and releasing it in retaliation for not paying a personal debt owed to him.

Blabbermouth Greg goes on an on about their impending divorce, how much he spent on her 1st season of TRHoA, how fame went to NeNe's head, how they were going to Jamaica to work things out, and blah blah blah.

Poooooor Greg, but I'm not accepting any excuses from him, privacy is privacy, an all too important factor in any relationship. Don't go talking your business, plain and simple. Folks don't care about you working it out, they want a nasty divorce garnished with all of the truth and some lies, fully packed with eye-gaping drama.

NeNe needs to check that azz, but from what I can tell...still stick it out with Greg. He seems like a great husband, fully backing her, after all he said he spent in excess of $300k on the first season of the show. A man has to be down to invest into your passion like that...but an azz checking nonetheless for embarrassment.

I've encountered folks commenting on everything from her nose job, to how they can't stand her ghetto style, her over the top drama antics, and her Amazonian stature. Well, for me, she was the most real of any of the cast. She was the only one other than Lisa that was married, her husband had $300k to blow on her fame, She is a stripper turned social butterfly, the party didn't start till she walked in, and she was the only one who set fear in folks when she went off. NeNe appeared confident, and private, serious but fun, ghetto classy, and useful for some reason.

All of the other ladies, if that's the right thing to call them (surely not wives), were hiding stuff, were broke, were pretending terribly/ horrible acting, and didn't move me. NeNe did.

She's still ghetto, and everyone doesn't have to like her, but I'm rooting for her and her boo.

How many months is Alicia Keys?

2010-06-08T11:26:00.000-05:00

Looks to be around 24 weeks, which would give her a due date of late September. I'm taking bets....

Antywayz...Everyone has been beating ol' girl down for taking another woman's husband...yeah yeah I agree but only to a certain extent.
In my heart I'm a liberal woman, I like to beat my own drum, and create my own rhythm in life.
First off, marriage is at the heart. Screw the rings and the courthouse. A man and a woman make that vow to love and cherish, have and hold, richer or poorer, better or worse, but things change, most importantly people change.
Swizz and Mashonda weren't making it and he wanted to keep his son where he could see him. I'm sure he'd rather pay to take care of both wife and child than have them elsewhere bitter.
So he meets someone that he pairs with like hand and glove, someone that he really falls for.
My guess....The have that surface deep relationship which can be so warm and serious on that junior high level, the secks is good, and he and she are both willing to throw caution to the wind and jump.
So they do, skrew Mashonda.....just divorce and pay child support. I mean really, when might Swizz travel with a woman like Alicia, when will he connect with someone with as much talent, influence, and respect as Alicia? When would he connect with someone who loves music as much as he? Never.
And Alicia says to him 'you give me a feeling that I've never felt before', that 'I deserve this, and I wanna make you a baby', and 'this is exactly how it should feel when it's meant to be'. She says 'time is only wasting, why wait for eventually'. She says 'if we do the unthinkable will it make us look crazy' f it....I'm ready.

I could hold the bible close and say you're wrong Alicia, but the Leslie deep in me says do what you feel.
Alicia might be just the needed lubrication to get Swizz' divorce in motion.

You never know the hell people endure for the sake of marriage. Not speaking, cheating, arguing over the simplest, pretending under scope, hoping things will work out, knowing they won't.

Love is a thing you don't find everyday, better grab it while you can.

Oil and Water

2010-06-03T10:39:00.001-05:00

First, I wanted to say that I am sorry to the animals and those that thrive on the Gulf of Mexico's animal population. I'm sorry because I need oil to commute and cool and heat my home.

Things are so complicated now...how do I conserve more so that I wont contribute to the overwhelming demand for the earth's natural resources? Drive what type of car? cool my house how? heat my water how? I have always been conscious of the earth depleting resources, and the waste created by humans, but it feels like God is somehow communicating loudly and clearly with the inhabitants of the earth pleading for change. We really need to make solar energy more affordable, develop wind energy, and raise awareness of the true status of the oil availability and the effects of it's use.

Many people are saying BP is to blame, some say Obama, well I say I'm to blame, you're to blame, We are all guilty and should pay the consequence. I drove clear across town the other day in an attempt to eat some bacon wrapped shrimp, drove to Dallas recently for a party, and drive 45 minutes to La Marque to see my son nearly every week. Needless to say I'm cutting way back. I'm finding a recipe for grilled bacon-wrapped shrimp online, and road trips are up in the air this summer, my son is going to have to come and stay here or stay down there. I'm gathering a list of other tweaks too, mostly to conserve responsibly.

Conservation is a lonely road though. Most people are turned off when I talk conservation, but if none else works I know that when a hole is ripped in the sky and everything burns up, I will know it was prolonged just that much by me not driving the 610 Loop in the middle of the night to get out of the house.

So much has happened recently that I actually can call it, the world is in peril. Hurricanes Katrina and Ike, Haiti's Earthquake, Obama's Election, a few personal problems, and now the Gulf of Mexico's oil disaster......We're surely destroying this world, and I just hope that it's demise can be prolonged by everyone coming together in agreeance and making some conservative changes.

Here's a few things you can do too:

Recycle
Lower your water heater temperature
Hang your clothes out to dry
Stay at home and play a board game
Turn off the lights
Stop buying plastic and throwing it away

Marilyn Monhoe...

2010-06-01T17:49:00.000-05:00

I wake up this morning to Marilyn monroe signing a seductive Happy Birthday wish to then president John F. Kennedy...which was horrible. Just diving right in....MArilyn was a straight hooker wasn't she? You know I was born in 79' so I don't know much about her, other than white people USED to act like she was the most beautiful thing. She's pretty but personality didn't count for much back then huh? Men liked the dumb blonde thing seriously huh?
I'm glad I was born when I was, becuase either women have come a long way, or the overall public opinion of women has changed.
50 years ago, good looks took you where you wanted to go, now it's a bit different, and most men and women have bent to reasoning. You don't have to agree but I think that slutty music and video ho's are farther from reality than Flava Flav's rap career in 2010. I'd even go a step further to say that videos in the BET sense are irrelevant, 106 & Park is dead, and gold teeth and braids are out.
Yes, I still watch videos, but I'm getting tired of the recycled dancers, lyrics, and fashion. I want an audio visual feast...I'm current and I know what sounds and looks good. Is it too much to ask for great looking artists, good music, great fashion fused together is a fresh compelling way? sheesh!
Marilyn was a ho....no different than many others - sleazy without shame. She's famous yet still for admitting that her best friends are diamonds.
Women are have evolved, and not just recently. Women have been mis-portrayed in the media for a very long time and somehow I tied Marilyn Monhoe and current video ho's together because, well, I felt like it.
For no particular reason, no particular order here are some women portrayed as real women.

What I'm listening to....

2010-05-28T18:30:00.000-05:00

Fireworks - Drake feat. Alicia Keys

Gary Coleman dies at 42...

2010-05-28T18:18:00.000-05:00

Sad. Sad. Sad.

Gary Coleman loses his lifelong battle with Kidney disfunction in Provo, Utah, his wife by his side. Everyone laughed at Gary, thought he was a good joke....Sorry Gary. It was just funny to see a short person go off. And he went off non-stop. He didn't take any level of disrespect, none. Many people came at him wrong, thinking they could taunt and prod him into a rage, like entertainment.

His situation is so parralell to Hot n' Tot Venus.

Entertainment is so skrewed. I love a good laugh, but damn if the entertainment industry doesn't destroy the lives of talented people.

For a price of $10-$15 there should really be a book on how to be, not just look and act like, but actually be a star. A book fully versed on how to respond to tough questions, how to stand, how to party, what to wear, how to act, sing, dance, and tell a joke. I found a few good books on how to break into the industry but what about after the break, how do you keep it going, the financial aspects, not so much of who to know, where to go but something very beyond all that. Maybe how to come back, how to overcome bad press, how to cut the drug or alcohol habit...

Mike's death is one hard act to follow, so if you're going to go (which we all will), go with fireworks. Don't take no shit from no one at any time, ever. Someone step to you with some disrespect, if the store clerk doesn't give you your correct change, you man or woman takes you for a fool, even if someone cuts you off on the road - know that only you are the master of your abilities, and when it's time to check out - you go alone.

Sincerely, Jane....

2010-05-28T10:59:00.000-05:00

download

My musical tastes are simple. I like voices, instruments, baseline, rap, hip-hop, smooth R&B, the newly released, reggae, pop, old school, gospel, the Bee Gees (yes, a section all their own), and I love to hear ladies sing. Music is more of a journey to me than simple entertainment, music helps me relate to the world and still fantasize simultaneously. If it makes me p-pop, jerk my hips, throw my hands up, clap, sing, smoke, chill, cry....then I'm good. Props to musicians for expelling from me nearly %75 of my expressed emotions.

Can Not Wait!

2010-05-27T18:37:00.001-05:00

I hate stupid people.

2010-05-27T18:08:00.000-05:00

So basically this chick is sleep and no one wakes her when it's time to get off the plane. I bet someone said something to her, and she was like 'leave me alone' in her most twitchy and better than you voice. I don't get exactly why she is suing, but if anything she should owe someone, mainly me, for twitching and hesitating through her entire recount.

Customers sometimes expect too much. From bagging your groceries, to everything internet, to waking you from your nap on a plane. I remember when I fell asleep on the bus and woke up at the bus barn, my mother beat my ass. She told me that she didn't care how tired i was and that if she ever had to come and get me again she'd fix me - but most importantly - I better get off the bus at my stop.

Maybe this chick didn't have a bus barn experience, but either way story-telling is not her forte.

Janet Jackson's Coiffe

2010-05-26T17:27:00.000-05:00

I don't know what's gotten into Janet, but it appears that it is time for some changes. I wonder if what else is changing, wonder if she's in command or if someone else is? Whatever is going on... it's appears it's working. She looks happy and healthy.

I heard someone saying they couldn't believe that she cut her hair...WHAT?!? That wasn't Janet's hair! I guess she convinced these folks that she had long silky hair down her back. Well I know she just got rid of the weave for a min - it'll be back.

Weave or no weave.....Janet is super hot, and doing her thang at 44 years.

J's Rollercoaster Click here

How to dance.......

2010-05-13T17:29:00.001-05:00

Years ago when I was just turning 18, I could throw my hips in any direction and get down, seriously. But someone depleted my confidence one day by telling me I couldn't dance and that was that. Well, I found my groove again recently, thanks you-know-who. I decided to do a study hall and teach anyone who is interested in fiding their beat, how to break it low.

1st step: Get drunk. It pushes aside your shyness and every inhibition you might have.

Step two: Put on some music, your favorites preferably, ones you know all the words to.

Step three: put on anything skimpy. seriously it's worth it. Oh, yes...shut the blinds, pull the curtains.

Step four: put on some sexy heels. and pull out your full length mirror.

Step five: work on walking sexy to the beat, admire your shape from all angles, it would help if you have youtube to get some ideas. Try these:

Step six: Enjoy yourself.

Isn't Regina King Lovely?

2010-05-13T16:57:00.000-05:00

I have always thought that Regina King was pretty, even though people said she didn't have hips. Well, she doesn't but I don't have long silky hair down my back, so yeah whatever.

I just found some of my favs of my girl, and I hope you enjoy.

Man I love this lady!

Hookers and Wives....any difference?

2010-05-10T18:32:00.000-05:00

I heard a trashy woman once say there was no difference between hookers and wives. I thought that statement was totally disrespectful then and now. But I've noticed that it is less black and white and more shades of grey. Even the most taught and prim ladies have secrets that would blow your mind and not all gushy and romantic, but raunchy, nasty and slutty. And the trashiest and most lewd women have had their day in the sun too, having men fall in love love, not just lust.
Whatever role you play - play it up - but do it well. Don't ruin your run with a man by loosing it in the end. Hold it together, see it through, don't shame yourself.

All that to discuss these fools. They both look super lame to me.....superficial, selfish, snobbish, secretly sad individuals posing for the camera. I always look into the eyes for that intuitive glimpse and I trust it. My gut tells me at the time of this picture DeWayne was embarrassed and guilty for falling for an industry chick that was only looking to capitalize from being a celebrity couple. He looks like he was there willingly but still somehow regretfully. She on the other hand looks like a shrewd jaguar toying with its prey until long after it's death, enjoying fully the defeated limp trophy.

I've heard men discuss her like something of value, but I've never like Gabrielle, initially for how she makes people say her name.....then how she talks to people in interview and on screen, watch.

I'm all for black women being educated, aggressive, competitive, confident...... but it's just something very pretend and manufactured about this girl.

The claim from either a very loose mouthed and hurt wife or an unstable woman carelessly aiming embarrassment at Mr. Wade, is that he not only gave her chlamydia, but abandonded his children, but is having an affair with Ms. Union. I think it's all true. He does stay on the road, and he has been seeing Gabrielle Union..... I bet he's done at least some of the rest. Like, really.... I hate that divorces are all about the woman not being mentally stable enough to care for the children.... like, really? You get legally married in front your family and friends, have children, go out together and seem happy..... but someone brings home some gifts that you can't easily get rid of and wham..... she's crazy!

I'd be mad too, and I might not be able to hold my head high and keep my composure. I might start loosing it, putting folks all in my business, even dragging the other women into it - because when you hold down the fort for a man you truly love and you're not practiced at hurting people in retaliation - might get a lil' sloppy. But all in all, Siohvaughn came from dirt with Dwayne, married him, and had his kids, she deserves some respect, but those same points gained were lost when you claim an STD. I'm just sayin'.

Siohvaughn filed suit in Chicago against Ms. Union alleging Gabrielle and Dwayne were engaged in foreplay infront the kiddies, and they became somehow emotionally distressed. I believe that too. I bet Dwayne is so glad to have a sexy woman (not saying Siohvaughn is ugly - just a little hard on the eyes) he gets all nympho around her.... even infront the chillun. I bet when the kids came home Siohvaughn held them and told them everything was going to be okay. See how Gabrielle responds:

"The court ultimately rejected these claims as frivolous," Mulrain said. "Gabrielle apologizes to the Circuit Court of Cook County, Ill., for tying them up with erroneous claims when there are real victims who should be receiving the legal attention they need."

Dwayne Wade is the real loser here. He's such an easily lead dog.

...got to say something

2010-04-13T17:56:00.000-05:00

Time for a rant.......

Okay, so I'm 30 years old and I have two kids; Alan 14 years old, and Kyrie 3 years old. They are my entire. To some that might seem sad but I like it that way. Alan is so talented and sweet, he's got a special something about him that is just right. The other day we were decorating his room LSU and he helped me the whole time making small talk, but at other times he likes to be all by himself. I like that...people that love other people but enjoy and need personal time.

My little one, Kyrie, is the product of adult adoration and high expectation. She likes to cuddle on her own terms and be a baby only when she wants. I let her run things a little bit cause it's good to give young queens some say, don't you think? We went shoe shopping on Saturday because I hate all of her shoes and it's spring, and time to get colorful! So, we get in the store and I go to the ballet flats, she runs straight to the glittery Ed-Hardy-ish bright and bangin' tennis shoes, and NO encouragement would make her agree on the ballet flats. I gave in, and so what? She has to feel good, not just look good. So you GO baby girl!

As far as me......yeah I know you wanna know............Well, me, I'm feeling like I'm getting up from a long mental and emotional nap, rather a coma. So many things were suppressed until recently. I feel like a child again - curious, focused, emotional, keenly intuitive. It's great!

I'm letting this serious, fun, and mature woman take over me, all the way over. All of the things tht I've wished to persue.....it's on. I had fear of something, something dark and unnatural. I've had to face it.....the whole black engulfing terrifying thing...... and it was only scary on the surface, though below there was a beautiful thing, wholly worthy of adoration. What a wonderful validating moment for me! So wonderful I cry, I have to thank God for this. This type of feeling is all blessing.

People care only for the drama, ooh and ahh, I hate those people. So nosey and crippled by jealousy and hatred. I smell their proper and dignified asses a mile away. Live how you wish is what I feel. I hate those that wear their regrets and past mistakes like a parka jacket. Get past it, move on, try it again, don't hide and give up, be resourceful and break down the shape that others have forced you into. Be your own goddamn person. Stand alone.

Sorry bout that. Those nosey people almost ruined my good feeling. I don't know how I'm going to celebrate, but I want to make it sssssssssss-special.

Erykah Badu performs Window Seat Live

2010-04-01T11:41:00.002-05:00

Overcoming Fear.........

2010-03-30T12:47:00.000-05:00

I'm not a particularly timid person. I do fear loss, and confrontation, lonliness...even rejection. I have come to accept my fears like an unsightly mar on the perfection that is me, lol. no really. not really. I carry a heavy load of faults......all destined to shed.... so that one day I can stand fully faultless as a woman. I do know however that old faults are replaced with new ones, and if not a fault then a distraction (whatever you wanna call it). I don't live for the day they're all gone, just the day that experience, wisdom, and good advice helps to fix things before thay snowball into insecurities, ended relationships, jail sentences, unwanted children........

My Soul Sistah - the gifted Queen Erykah Badu debuted a great video bringing to light some serious issues of, as I interpret, the work life balance. The video was a different concept completley. I get the symbolism of stripping nude in front of people, but what I am struggling with is that she fell, she fell where JFK was shot.....uhhh, uncomfortable. Trust, I'm doing this exact thing before I die. I can't wait. My only fear is that I could go to jail (that place is for the insane, and those that cannot afford freedom).

I just want to connect to my girl Erykah, let her know she is touching me, changing me somehow. props.

An excerpt of 'Window Seat'

but i need u to want me

need you to miss me
i need your attention
i need you next me
i need someone to clap for me
i need your direction
somebody say come back
come back baby come back
i want u to need me
come back come back baby come back
come back come back baby come back
come back come back baby come back
so, in my mind i’m tusslin’
back and forth ‘tween here and hustlin’
i don’t wanna time travel no mo
i wanna be here

cold.

St. Pat's Confession

2010-03-17T14:49:00.000-05:00

...Wherefore, then, be astonished, ye great and little that fear God, and you men of letters on your estates, listen and pore over this. Who was it that roused up me, the fool that I am, from the midst of those who in the eyes of men are wise, and expert in law, and powerful in word and in everything? And He inspired me---me, the outcast of this world---before others, to be the man (if only I could!) who, with fear and reverence and without blame, should faithfully serve the people to whom the love of Christ conveyed and gave me for the duration of my life, if I should be worthy; yes indeed, to serve them humbly and sincerely.

In the light, therefore, of our faith in the Trinity I must make this choice, regardless of danger I must make known the gift of God and everlasting consolation, without fear and frankly I must spread everywhere the name of God so that after my decease I may leave a bequest to my brethren and sons whom I have baptized in the Lord---so many thousands of people.

Hollywierd......

2010-03-17T12:15:00.000-05:00

Saw some outrageos stuff this morning...thought I would share.

King Latifah looks smitten huh? Maybe he was touringher in the deep end, but it looks to me that the queen rather ejoys this. I was think too that if Queen can make it in acting precious can fit in too.....

My My My Rob....Young mister Kardashian bootyliscious isn't he? Me no likey men hips or junk in the trunk when it comes to men.....but I must say Junior has sexy on lock. Rob is also rumored to be getting it in with Rev Run's daughter Angela Simmons.

Lady Gaga premiered her video for Telephone this week and plenty people are talking...but I haven't heard any talk that validates all the early talk that this was an epic video. Wardrobe was on point, (love the lit cigarettes shades) but Beyonce didn't add anything to this project besides her name. I'm all for liberality and all but this girl-on-girl thing Gaga does is tasteless....nothing enticing about it at all....But do you Lady.

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Ms. Badu

2010-03-11T11:01:00.000-06:00

Vibrate on

Jump up in the Air (Stay there)

Album hits the shelves March 30...cop it here.

D'Angel-Ho

2010-03-09T14:59:00.000-06:00

In the case you haven't heard, D' Angelo was cruising at 2AM the other night and offered an undercover $40 to dig in her brains, lol!
He pleads not guilty and is out on bond.
D'Angelo should have never skrewed over on Angie Stone, she looks like she can think a bad thing and it come true.
Reports say that ya boy was rolling in a dope Range Rover with thousands in cash stuffed in the glove box.
I just want to ask where he might have gotten that money from? And if you have that much money why $40? something in the milk ain't white........
Get it together fellas.

Nothin on you...

2010-03-09T13:48:00.000-06:00

One of the best songs I've ever heard from B.o.B......gosh......nothin on u.....mmmmph.

Rihanna - Rude Boy

2010-03-01T15:21:00.000-06:00

I love this video....

Whitney Houston: Hate her or Love Her

2010-03-01T10:35:00.000-06:00

It's purely typical that Whitney would be looking a mess at the airport in Sydney- she always does. She knows best that you don't have to get all G'd up to travel. Some people do and find their feet broken down in the first quarter of getting to where they must. The solution is flat shoes.

But Whitney is a different story than wether to wear heels or not. She can look a mess - in any shoes. But she has the voice on lock. She can sing circles around anyone self-claimed diva on her worst day.
When I was young my aunt told me 'a man could not fully appreciate you at your best if he could not love you at your worst'.
I get Whitney, I think Bobby did too. I felt that connection when I watched their show. I had always felt that for them. Many people would reply 'everything that feels good to you is good for you' and that Bobby was 'dead weight'. My response is that God has a real husband for every woman that matches up with her perfectly, and you must remain yourself and deal appropriatley with them as they come...influence them, pray for them, catch up to them, be with them, rebuke them, leave them to their own devices. I don't know how bad it got - but she loved Bobby.
Being too desperate and overly anxious can essentially have you paired with a person that was not meant for you. Doesn't like your jokes, doesn't enjoy time with you, cheats on you, can't stomach your cooking, and can only only talk to you on your way out the door or when you get your check. But this chick has love in her heart and it shows.
I love Whitney......and I can appreciate her and love her at whatever.

Whitney Houston - Look Into Your Heart: A Tribute to Curtis Mayfield

When did Charles Barkley get so Fat?

2010-02-22T16:31:00.002-06:00

Not sexy, sot sexy at all Sir Charles............

Scotty Lago, sad shame....

2010-02-19T18:53:00.000-06:00

Snowboarder Scotty Lago celebrates on the street after winning the bronze medal with a few photos, lol! I think they're great. Youthful celebration to me....funny actually.
Lago volunteered to come home from Vancouver early because of the photos. That descision might have him sweeping floors at Target, but it's his choice.

nice abs....

Leslie on Tiger's Apology

2010-02-19T18:44:00.000-06:00

You know I agree with most, that it was heavily scripted, duh. None of the speech was from his heart. It was a political move to sooth someone, not me. Not me for for a real reason; Men don't feel sorry that they cheated - they feel sory becuase they got caught.

They take the pompous road vesting themselves in fault, claim every indescretion, take any blame out there. Then they claim they care about the wife's embarressment, looking sullen and over-shamed. But secretly, deep down - they couldn't care less. Glad, if any emotion at all, they got what they did when they did and glad everything didn't get out. The whores are of no consideration - like tramps in the street (well...), couldn't care less who they tell or how they were led on, how broken their hearts are.

I say bullshit.

I'm glad Elan wasn't there. Hell, he didn't need her support when he was running hookers from Vegas to Miami. I'm glad she went upside his head after she found out, good for her. But what's sad is that some women attract cheaters, cheaters see your green young tail coming - calling you 'babygirl' and 'PYT', lol! She surprised him, and I'm glad.

1 for the women who marry, who comb hair, make dinner, vacuum, who turn over and let him get a lil' when he really doesn't deserve it, who really love your stupid tail, who should care enough to leave.

Skrew Tiger and m'er f'ers like him.

Pound of flesh to sleep well.....

2010-02-19T17:23:00.000-06:00

(Joseph is the keyboard player)
Joseph Andrew Stack, software company engineer and Austin, Texas resident flew a single engine plane into the Echelon building containing the IRS in Austin just before 10am yesterday.
Stack was in a dispute with the IRS, but before he crashed into the building he left an internet suicide note:

I read the note. and I can understand his point of view, I just think he went a tad overboard. He had gotten with some attorneys and figured a way to claim exemptions which had gotten him in trouble a ways back thinking he was smarter than the IRS. Well it caught up with him and the IRS don't play. His wife left him on Wednesday and took the kid, so he probably - already crazy - burned the house down and committed suicide. I bet he was drunk too. Sad, he commits suicide so no insurance pay-off, arson so no pay-off on the destroyed house, plus a healthy IRS bill.......wife gets skrewed again.

Joe Stack

Elton John on Jesus' sexuality....

2010-02-19T16:46:00.000-06:00

“I think Jesus was a compassionate, super-intelligent gay man who understood human problems. On the cross, he forgave the people who crucified him. Jesus wanted us to be loving and forgiving. I don’t know what makes people so cruel. Try being a gay woman in the Middle East — you’re as good as dead.”

via: Parade

My take: I do wonder what makes people so cruel, but what I'm wondering most now is why try to make Jesus gay? Why entertain those thoughts in your head. It saddens me a little. yeah, Elton - not the proper way to honor the begotten Son. Tisk tisk.

Kevin Hart...Jus' Jokin'..........

2010-02-19T16:33:00.000-06:00

Kevin Hart made a good joke about light skinned women have better credit than dark skinned women and I laughed. Though it was funny.

And it was.

But seriously white women have better credit than black women, and white men have better credit than black men. If he had said all that then the joke would have not been as funny.

Black women don't need to hear anything negative about us. With what we go through as black women in a culture that admonishes us as incorrigibly ignorant, overly aggressive, lazy or the other negative undertones that smear our strength and courage - nothing but praise should come from our men. It's alright to joke, I like to laugh, love it really - but time-out for being critical in any way of each other. Make fun of them over there - not us over here. Saying dark skinned black women are lesser than light skinned women is wrong. And I'm not dark nor light skinned and I have REALLY bad credit - so no 'ho' joke for me?

You don't have to aplogize Kevin.

Looks happier with the light skinned chick, lol!

Let's get Married!

2010-02-16T10:43:00.000-06:00

LaLa Vasquez and Carmelo Anthony will be jumping the broom July the 10th. Good for her......I think they'll last. After all, they've made it 6 years, had a child, live together, and she seems to be able to ummmm 'handle' his lifestyle. Congrats!

We are the World

2010-02-15T09:59:00.000-06:00

Wonderful song – great casue.

Why did Jamie Fox open this video? I wish Mary J. and Faith would have sung together. I love how Janet and Michael got to sing together. Wyclef's vibrato bothers me a little, he has such an identifiable voice – why the extreme vibrato? Celine had the best voice, and I think would’ve won – had this been a competition. Right as I thought this was going to not become weird Weezy came in with soft lyrics and too much Auto tune. The rapper’s part was the best, but I wonder who wrote that. Somewhere between LL and Wyclef would be my guess. The funniest part was Jamie fox as Ray Charles, so cute. The rappers were lip-syncing. The detectable voice to me was LL and Busta - who might I add was looking so scrumptious. This song would have been better had Weezy not sang his part, had Wyclef not gotten on four times, and had Jamie not spoken in Creole.

B4 you bomb....Register first......

2010-02-09T17:23:00.000-06:00

A law is now in effect in South Carolina requiring that all groups wanting to overthrow the government register with the Secretary of State.

the South Carolina Code of Laws requires that, "Every member of a subversive organization, or an organization subject to foreign control, every foreign agent and every person who advocates, teaches, advises or practices the duty, necessity or propriety of controlling, conducting, seizing or overthrowing the government of the United States, of this State or of any political subdivision thereof by force or violence or other unlawful means, who resides, transacts any business or attempts to influence political action in this State, shall register with the Secretary of State on the forms and at the times prescribed by him."

Notes to a Tea Party?

2010-02-08T17:56:00.000-06:00

Anybody can bring notes to a speech, no crime in that, no disgrace. But if you're going to mock President Obama for using a TelePrompTer, you sort of can't let a Huffington Post blogger see "Energy" and "Tax Cuts" and "Lift American Spirits" written on the palm of your left hand, no matter how hard it is to remember tricky concepts like those.
Now Sarah Palin comes right out and says it, that she really is thinking about running for President in 2012. She says it in the same starry-eyed way kids talk about growing up to be astronauts, but actually seems to believe it, that somehow she can go from being this kind of pinup girl for her Tea Party friends to the White House.

Nothing on you........

2010-02-08T15:23:00.000-06:00

This chick has the prototype of a perfect voice to me.

Kim Burrell - BET Honors

2010-02-04T18:05:00.000-06:00

Kim Burrell took the stage in a couture gown by Carolina Herrera and diamonds by Gucci. Whitney Houston stood at the front of the stage during Kim’s entire performance, and the crowd’s awe and praises for Kim’s voice and her new look cemented the night as a rebirth for Ms. Burrell.

China Girl Soup

2010-02-04T17:51:00.000-06:00

It's crazy. So, like everyone has heard of before - there as been a One Child Policy in China for the last 30 years. Obviously for many couple they'd prefer to have a boy - to carry on the family name, to take care of them in their old age. I agree with attempting to control the population of an out-of-control population, but the policy should be two children. That way, each couple could have a boy to carry on the family name and a girl to take care of them as they age, or two boys for family name, whatever - as it stands, families are aborting after the sex can be determined.
I can't fathom the morning sickness, telling everyone 'we have a baby on the way' to find out it's a girl and having to abort it. I am very pro-choice. Every woman should be responsible with respect to reproduction, but if still you become pregnant and the situation isn't right in which to raise your child that there are alternatives to turn to. This is off point but I just wanted to share that.
So yeah, the Chinese have several abortion clinics in ever small town and hundreds in the cities. They have stiff penalties for those that have a second child and even force sterilization of the women RIGHT after they have given birth. Thank God for America.
I just think they are devaluing women and forcing children to grow up spoiled, not grasping how to share, how to think freely. I'd move....just to feel freedom as it should be.
Another thing. Did you know that the aborted girls can be sold as food - get quite a pretty penny for her as well. The cook will prepare her with vegetables and serve her up in a pretty bowl for a patron to eat. Seriously. In China you can get soup with a little aborted girl in it. Go search for yourself, can't stomach that again. But I read some later claims that it was hoax - that it never did happen. Pictures can be airbrushed, but how can you airbrush a little boiled fetus into some soup with herbs and vegetables around her? Someone ate her.
I say they need to get rid of the policy altogether.

Taylor Swift drops one of her Grammys

2010-02-03T15:45:00.000-06:00

SUCKS FOR YOU TRICK. I hope that was the one for album on the year because you did NOT deserve that.

She e' day day day Bobosa?

2010-02-02T16:29:00.000-06:00

We all have a gift. I'm glad for mine. I can sing, play the flute, I think I can write well, a few other things - and I have insightful awareness. So, with that awareness I still can't say for sure if I believe it. I did a little research on speaking in tongues and found out some very interesting things from a non-biased perspective. Some believe it, some dimply don't, lol. I'm somewhere nearest the tongue speakers. I want to believe it becuase I have experienced the Holy Spirit. My prayers are fruitful, I am blessed by any man's measure. I desire spiritual gifts. I'd like to speak to God directly, be filled with the spirit, to prophesieth:) I'm clear.

1 Corinthians 14

1Follow after charity, and desire spiritual gifts, but rather that ye may prophesy.
2For he that speaketh in an unknown tongue speaketh not unto men, but unto God: for no man understandeth him; howbeit in the spirit he speaketh mysteries.
3But he that prophesieth speaketh unto men to edification, and exhortation, and comfort.
4He that speaketh in an unknown tongue edifieth himself; but he that prophesieth edifieth the church.
5I would that ye all spake with tongues but rather that ye prophesied: for greater is he that prophesieth than he that speaketh with tongues, except he interpret, that the church may receive edifying.

It is that desire that draws me nearer, becuase I want to be closer to God, to Christ. I do know though that without speaking in tongues my thoughts and ways can still be edified, I can be straightened and be stronger in Christ. I struggle, yes. But I can still serve God with a curious mind rather than serve with a condemning spirit.

I saw this video, where this woman videos her disbeliefs with being slain with the spirit and speaking in tongues.

I applaud her for being open, and I pray that God graces her and forgives her.

what do you think?

Bish get off me.............

2010-02-02T10:27:00.000-06:00

This is how you respond when someone not only thinks they know you, but also when you are insulted. It takes a great deal of time to master the Art of Ebonics - don't take a stab at it on prime time tv.

Rihanna On Ellen - Full Interview

2010-02-02T10:22:00.000-06:00

Cheating in the New Millenium

2010-02-02T10:19:00.002-06:00

Pull your pants up

2010-01-29T10:01:00.000-06:00

Old men try to bring wisdom but get caught up along the way. To be critical - you must be upright. Not on the floor breakdancing or saying '71 years young'. Just be right.

Children learn more from your actions than some silly song about your back pockets on the floor or pants on the ground. Just be upright.

It's real out here. People, young and old, are dealing with drug dependencies, poverty, joblessness, inner temptations, abuse, eternally 1 check from being on the streets. This song, nor any other like it will manage to seep into the spirit of a person and change them. The songs, both songs, are comedy at best. Those old men need to take a seat before someone slips a disc or breaks a hip. If you're looking to relate - just be right - connect - encourage - advise, but never ever EVER try to rap.

Mecca Diaries

2010-01-29T09:20:00.000-06:00

Hajj is the world’s largest annual pilgrimage that takes place in Mecca, Saudi Arabia. Last year VICE Founder Suroosh Alvi went with his family and shot footage with an old Handicam. His intention was never to make a VBS doc out of it, but lo and behold here it is…shaky camerawork and all. November 27, 2009 is the Eid celebration for the Muslim world and also marks the end of this year’s Hajj.

Haiti HAARP'd

2010-01-22T17:32:00.000-06:00

Alicia & Karina - Live

2010-01-15T13:12:00.000-06:00

Check out Alicia Key performing the hot slow jam "Unthinkable" of her new album The Element Of Freedom during her AOL Live Session Plus a Raw Session from Karina Pasian.

Unthinkable (Live AOL Session)
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Winner (Live RAWSession)
by BlakMusicFirst